decebal Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 From many posts on the forums, I think we all agree that the no contact rule is a must. My ex and I were together for two years and broke up on May 11th. After the breakup we mutually agreed to go to counseling to try to save the relationship. That didn't work, and at the end of June she broke things off for good. The NO contact rule was working and slowly I was trying to heal. Prior to my two year relationship, I was in a five year relationship. Maybe I am nostalgic but from that relationship I have a box full cards, pictures and gifts that I had received from my ex-girlfriend. The box is stored in storage. I've never been very lucky in love so I keep these things so that when I'll be 80 years old and still single, I'll be able to go through these boxes and say that it was better to love and lose than to never love at all. Back to my recent breakup... After more than a month of no contact seeing that my ex is not calling, I send a brief e-mail asking her to send me any pictures of us from her camera that she hasn't deleted. When the relationship ended, I deleted my Facebook account just so that I wouldn't see her with someone new. On the same day I e-mail about the pictures, I get an e-mail from Google+ telling me that my ex joined Google+. I should have known better than to look at her Google+ account. She used a picture of her new boyfriend and her together posing for the camera. The lesson I've learned is that you must get EVERYTHING you want when you breakup so you don't ask for it a month later. Pictures, gifts you got, etc So here I am, another box of two years going into storage. If I'm still alone at 80, I'll open them all up and remember the good times without remembering the painful weeks after.
richard9 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 The same goes for the other way around give EVERYTHING back to them, post it if you dont want to see them, so that they dont have an excuse to contact you. I like your idea about the box when you're 80, I think the same way. And yes I too believe it is better to have loved and lost even though the pain was so bad. But lets not give up yet, we made one girl happy for some time, you never know another one may allow us to do the same ;-)
Sugarkane Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 A lot of people don't get the chance because they got blindsided. Therefore that's not always possible. Really the dumper shouldn't be that petty in the first place.
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