JesseW Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Hey everyone, this is my first post. So here's my story: Me and my ex had been dating since the beginning of freshman year (high school). We had tiny off and ons all throughout freshman year but at the end of that year we dating from then until the very end of senior year. One day she come sup to me and says that she likes another guy. In retrospect I see the signs that I didn't before. Over the next 2 weeks she would go back and forth between me and him, I guess we were both trying to convince her of who was better. Some days she would want to be with me and more than others him. Eventually she left me and said that she didn't want to be committed, then the next day she was together with him!! We were about to move to Cali together in with my brother. Later on she would continue to blowup my phone, I heard it was good to go no contact so I wasn't answering. Finally I answered and she said that he doesn't treat her as well as I did, and that she had higher expectations for him. I guess I set the bar pretty high! A month later she calls me and decides she wants to tell me a lot of stuff that she has done, mainly drunk. Was this trying to make me jealous or something? Saying things like they don't use condoms when they have sex, and stuff. Then yesterday after like a month and a half of not talking, she texted me and said hey I just randomly thought of you for some reason and I thought I should just see if your doing ok. I said fine how are you? She said good and told me a bit about whats going on in her life. then I asked her why she really txted me/ She said she was really just seeing if I was ok. I said so you felt obligated? She said no I just had a feeling. Then she said I am very happy with him btw. I was like why did you have to say that? I told her to stop contacting me because it still hurts when she talks to me. So what is all of this? Does she still like me or no? Whats going on? we dated for almost 4 years. She said she liked him for a few months She said she started liking him because she was scared to leave to Cali from Oregon. I read a post on here bout GIGS and it seemed to hit the nail right on the head. Thanks everyone in advance and I know its kinda long but thanks for taking the time to read, it means a lot.
Philosoraptor Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 It doesn't matter what you want to call it, you were letting her treat you poorly. She doesn't seem to want to take responsiblity, have boundaries, or really care about how you are feeling. Does it really matter if she likes you or not if she is willing to treat you this way? Is this the type of person you want to be committed to anyways?
Author JesseW Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Yeah i guess your right, she was making out with him and sleeping at his house before she left me. She just wanted to make sure he was a for sure thing before she left me. She cant be alone. I think Im still just thinking of the good times.
Author JesseW Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Does anyone else have any input? it would be greatly appreciated:laugh:
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