She broke it off after 4.5 years, said she needed a few months off, help.

[bbwcfan]

Okay. I am posting here because I have no place else to go. I hope someone takes the time and replies. I had been going out with this girl, Rachel, for 4.5 years. When we first got together, she was 14 and I was 17. I was her first real love, her first kiss, I took her virginity, etc. Well, lately, she has been acting more distant and independent. She got a full time job now for the first time, and she also is having a difficult time with her first semester at college. She pretty much claims she has had no time for me lately, but yet, she acquired a new group of friends and she would go out with them instead of spending time with me. I was an extremely nice guy to her.. seeing her all the time. Doing sweet things for her. Always listening to her and doing the things she wanted to do. But, a month ago, she basically told me she needs until December or so to sort things out in her life. She said the relationship is too stressful, and she doesn't want to be with me now. So I ignored her for a week, I figured NO CONTACT would be the best way to go. But, I ended up calling her and writing an english essay for her (she begged me). She agreed to meet me for a "date" the next day, and she totally was kissing me, telling me she loved me, and that me holding her is the best feeling in the world, but, she said, "we can't be together now. We're not together." I flipped out. I was confused. I was begging her.. why? Why can't we be together now? How can you kiss me now and say we're not together? How can you hold my hand and say we're not together? How can you go a week of not calling, then start in on the "I love you talk?" Etc. She got mad. I decided to send her flowers and put them on her car while she was at work, so I did, in a "I care" sort of way. then I apologized for begging for her back 5 days ago, and I have not talked to her since (she did not accept my apology).

 

What is the best way to get her back?

[bbwcfan]

Is no contact the best way to go? the first week we were broken up and we no-contacted, she would come online for like 10 second intervals, not say anything, then log off. And like I said, I eventually called and she told me "I wanted to talk to you a couple of times but you were away." Also, she said she loved me, but just needed some space and time to work things out.. but it seems like when I call her, I don't know if I will get yelled at, or if she will be really sweet to me. So we have been in No Contact since Tuesday (5 days now) and my friend told me she logged online last night for 10 seconds, and logged off (I was away, at a friend's house).

 

What do I do? Wait it out?