malin819 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 So me and my EX were together since November 2012. Relationship was great but we had a few problems (nothing is perfect) We took a break 4 months ago and the next day she slept with a old buddy. Then we broke 2 months ago for 3 weeks and she slept with 2 guys. Then a month ago she came back crawling to me and told me I was the guy for her and she made some mistakes. In the beginning of the relationship she was on party mode and did drugs but she did settle down and stopped everything So I took her back and she was the greatest but I took everything for granted and treated her like nothing because she slept with those 2 guys. We had a fight 3 weeks ago. We exchanged a few txts...I txted her how sorry I was for being an **** and that I was in the wrong. She didn't reply after my apologies and tries for a second chance. so I txted again for my chains that are at her place. She only responded the next day with a oh sorry I didn't know... 2 weeks ago she needed help to go to the hospital. I went with her and at the hospital she started being close and treating me like a boyfriend. For those 2 weeks I thought we were back together she called me by by the old names and we spent a lot of time together. I even surprised her at work with flowers and breakfest last Monday. But yesterday I told her that I felt she didn't want me to hang out with her friends or family (like she is hiding me) and she flipped out saying that she needs to be alone and the things I said to her during our fights are stuck in her head. She even proposed that we could still see each other but she would maybe entertain dating other people. I feel so bad because I treated her like a queen for those 2 weeks and I have learned my lesson. Worse part...she wanted to go see a comedian and I bought 2 tickets, a lovely dress for her and had reserve dinner at a nice restaurant. I don't understand what is happening in her head. She is living in the past and I was able to accept her mistakes after a reflection.
Philosoraptor Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Doesn't sound like you two have compatible lifestyles. She clearly missed her past and bounced back in that time apart. Seems like you've been making yourself a doormat though. You've made your point clear and it's obvious that she doesn't want the same. So you need to decide if you are ok with her seeing other people (which it doesn't seem like you are), or end things completly and find someone who you match up with lifestyle wise.
Author malin819 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Doesn't sound like you two have compatible lifestyles. She clearly missed her past and bounced back in that time apart. Seems like you've been making yourself a doormat though. You've made your point clear and it's obvious that she doesn't want the same. So you need to decide if you are ok with her seeing other people (which it doesn't seem like you are), or end things completly and find someone who you match up with lifestyle wise. We had a compatible lifestyle once she settle down but like you said she relapsed. I don't share a girl..its either relationship or not. I had 5 relationships and only slept with those 5 girls
Philosoraptor Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 We had a compatible lifestyle once she settle down but like you said she relapsed. I don't share a girl..its either relationship or not. I had 5 relationships and only slept with those 5 girls The question is did she relapse or was she just pushing herself to settle down and fit your mold?
Author malin819 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 The question is did she relapse or was she just pushing herself to settle down and fit your mold? no she settle down since she knew that her lifestyle would destroy. She even started seeing a psychologist in the last 3 months. When we were on break she went back to her old friends which are a bad influence (drugs) She told me a couple of time she acted this way to fill an emptyness in her (and thats why she slept with over 30 guys and everytime I think about that it hurts) But this girl only learns when she falls hard on her face
Author malin819 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 she just invited me over tonight and wants to have a talk tomorrow :/
Author malin819 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 Well Saturday I went to her place and we spent one last time day together. We cuddles and watched a couple of movies. She told me she didn't see herself with me but 3 weeks ago I was her husband and she wanted my kids. I left her a note Saturday while she was in the shower saying She will always have a place in my heart and that I wished her the best. I left without saying goodbye since i was hurting. I applied no contact and Monday morning she txted me at 6 Hey, I was wondering how you were doing? I replied hours later Thank I'm doing fine she then txted again something about a hat that I maybe left at her place (really didnt make any sense) told her that hat was at my mom Then she asked me to come to my condoto give me some of the money she owed me. When she came in she looked depressed and sad. She gave me the money and said I'm glad you are doing fine. I gave her a little cocky smile and she started saying whats? whats wrongs? whats is happening? tell me? I didnt reply but I told her you wanted to break so you should not be sad with your decision since you made it. She just replied never mind and left We txted a little bit since I know she has something behind her head that she wants to see but I believe she won't be able to step over her ego. So I no contacting her till her does and I will only respond once its about something serious like a talk
Chi townD Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Dude, run. This chick has no idea what she wants out of life. She even suggested making you a cuckold?!?!? Dude, time to move on. I mean, you break up and she's screwing someone the NEXT DAY! No mourning the loss of you or the relationship. You break up again and she goes with two different guys! That's three different guys she been with since you've known her (not including yourself). This relationship is too toxic
Author malin819 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 yes but why do I still have hope she'll do a 180 degree turn and see straight? She said she contacts me because she cares and is worried...she is doubting her decisions I believe
Author malin819 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 She just contaced me saying Hey how you doing? Kept NC so far
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