Omei Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I dreamt about my ex a lot last night I dont cry much anymore but I did this morning I dislike how real my dreams can be. So im turning 27 it will be my first birthday without him my family has planned a big dinner and my friends are all taking me out for a night of fun im gonna try to make it the best birthday ever. I hope he doesn't msg me happy birthday I soooo hope not. But he could never remember even after 5 years!!! So im prob safe.
Author Omei Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Okay now ive cried a ton, I dont know why im suddenly having a breakdown I just keep thinking about last year and how happy I was I miss him
Misfortune Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Okay now ive cried a ton, I dont know why im suddenly having a breakdown I just keep thinking about last year and how happy I was I miss him You're sad and crying because you miss him and the happy times you had together. We all have our moments. It's ok, it will get better. It's ok to cry.
Blastoplast Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Yup. I cried a little on my birthday this year, and that was ONE YEAR post break-up after a 7 year relationship. It's typical to remember fondly all the good times you had -- but at least you had good times!
Author Omei Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Once my friends came over I was okay
Vinsanity1307 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 OMEI I feel your pain my ex left me a month ago after 5 years as well and I just turned 27 last week. It was a terrible first birthday without her. I went to my relatives house for company but it was unbearable. I know this is something you dont want to hear but my advice is go out and have a great time. I know its aweful but try your best. I made the mistake of sulking the majority of the day. Although I am still hurting..I am here for you seeing you are dealing with a similar situation. 1
Author Omei Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 I did go out, I had a blast with my friends I didnt let that stop me, I have been thinking about him a lot he never did contact me on my birthday which im glad for. My dreams lately are driving me nuts I seem to have this weird pattern of up and down one month I am okay great cant wait for the future the next month I cant bare the pain. Like tonight I have been up all night in my dreams he still wants and loves me im too scared to fall asleep I had a horrible time yesterday after waking up.
Vinsanity1307 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Glad you went out and had a good time....Omg I feel you on that how long has it been since the breakup and no contact?.....The mornings are unbearable, and before I go to bed....not going to bed with her/him and waking up her not being there and thinking I have to get through this day not seeing her or him in your case...And sounds like the same dreams I get about my ex....What I try to do is go to bed thinking of something completely different a good thing in your life or something thats going on...Doesnt always work but sometimes does....
Els Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 But he could never remember even after 5 years!!! What!!? This, along with everything else you've said about him (video game addict, etc), speaks volumes about how absolutely correct your decision to break up with him was, Omei. Stay strong, keep yourself busy and surround yourself with friends. Still rooting for you.
Author Omei Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 What!!? This, along with everything else you've said about him (video game addict, etc), speaks volumes about how absolutely correct your decision to break up with him was, Omei. Stay strong, keep yourself busy and surround yourself with friends. Still rooting for you. I didnt break up with him he did me, there was some issues with games and such but him as a person there was more good for me than bad which is why i always stayed idk w/e I hate thinking about the good it makes it harder.
Author Omei Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 (edited) Glad you went out and had a good time....Omg I feel you on that how long has it been since the breakup and no contact?.....The mornings are unbearable, and before I go to bed....not going to bed with her/him and waking up her not being there and thinking I have to get through this day not seeing her or him in your case...And sounds like the same dreams I get about my ex....What I try to do is go to bed thinking of something completely different a good thing in your life or something thats going on...Doesnt always work but sometimes does.... Its been 5 months nc broke it a few times and re applied all that he had to offer was a friendship with benifits if I wanted. Hearing that thats all id ever be and hed only come speak to me when he had the time hurt so both times I re applied NC so painful to hear it even. I am still so in love, its been going like ill have a strong month, than a weak one then stonger again. Sometimes ill be like I cant wait to fall in love! Others I wanna be alone forever gosh its always changing. I have had 3 major relationships in my life 2 of them going over the 5 year mark this breakup has been by far the hardest to come back from if I do. Edited August 21, 2013 by Omei
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