Dazzee Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 My ex broke up with me 5 or so days ago (I don't even know how long I constantly think about her and days drag on.) We were each others first love and she was literally before we even got together the nicest sweetest kindest person I'd ever known, ever. She was a origin, as was I. She has a low sex drive and wasn't looking for a relationship or sex (although many many times offered both) until she found the right person who cared for her loved her wanted a exclusive monogamist long term relationship. We dated for 3 and a half years. She suffers from depression and for the last 6 or so months she told me she resented me for arguments we had. She also said she wasn't "in love" with me anymore. She told me this after we got in our biggest fight ever and I name called which hurt her extremely. Throughout or relationship she was always loving and said she wanted to spend her life with me marry have kids, ect. Only a month ago texting me "I can't wait for you to be my husband :)" followed by "I love you :)". Now that she as dumped me, she has been really cruel and heartless. We live in Canada I moved from the UK she wants me to go back to the UK. She hasn't wanted to see me since we broke up,although we did meet twice. She was very upset and said it hurt to be around me. We talked and I cried she got frustrated and got mad at me (she said she's emotionally drained and resents me and ate why). She proclaims she needs time to heal and still wants to be best friends. Today is my last day in Canada and I went up to her work because I wanted to spend my last day with her because I love her so much and care for her. We talk for around 8 minutes, I tell her I love her and care about her, she insists she needs to leave because her ride is waiting. She tells me she is no longer in love with me and doesn't want to spend the day together saying things such as - "it hurts too much to be around you and makes me sad" which is true, and the bull**** excuses such as "my ride is waiting" "I work tonight" "I need to go home and nap". I offered to pay her a cab ride home once we had spent some time together but she said no. I fell to the ground spans sat against the wall, she said "I have to go, bye" and left. She was so cruel and heartless towards me, more so than I have ever been in our relationship and more so than she has. I never expected her to ever., ever act this way or say these things... I was to,d to not over analyze it and that she is just trying to push me away and no deal with the situation anymore. I feel her resentment, hurt and anger towards me right now, is over casting her emotions towards me (love, care, sympathy, ect)
Faith13/2 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I don't know what exactly your original argument consisted of besides you stating that you did some "name calling." That alone could have caused the bigger issue you are dealing with now. I know as a woman that even though simple things like cruel words shouldn't faze us so much, they do.. especially when they come from someone they care about. I'm not blaming you completely from all this as I'm sure the situation has far more to it then just what you have written. Maybe she just needs some time, or maybe whatever you may have said to her just tore her apart and made her think differently about you. Either way you need to give her space, I believe she's made it obvious that as of right now she wants to distance herself from you. I think you going back to the UK is just what the relationship may need right now, whether good or bad outcome.
flitzanu Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 she's not being fake, she's showing you it's over. she dumped you and that means she doesn't want to spend time with you, and you keep pushing her, showing up at her job and bothering her...that's why she's being "mean" so you'll take the hint that she's done.
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