autrives Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Here's my full break up story So I met my Ex about three weeks ago after almost two months NC. (She left me for another guy she feels is perfect.) She was in tears the whole time and I've spent a lot of time getting myself together and getting stronger in general. We're about to go on a rip with other friends and well be around each other for three days. I messaged her a week ago asking her to bring something for the trip. She answered along with a big paragraph saying that she didnt want to give me the wrong impression when we met and that it was just really overwhelming seeing me but that everything in her life is really good and important and helping her growing(which has been her line, and part of her reasoning in breakin up). It felt like she was convincing herself of her situation. Shes never been very sure of herself and is pretty self conscious in general. She ended by saying that she was sorry that she kept asking to be my friend when we met (i didnt know how to exactly answer that when we met, i just wanted it to be left open ended i guess, so i wasnt very clear) and she said she doesn't think we are ready to think of discuss about being friends yet. Im not sure why she changed her stance on friendship so much. I can only guess she feels that im not ready because she assumes im still too attached to her. But of course i want her back... It seems I dont even have the power over deciding to be friends or not, so i guess its all up to her. That being said shes extremely important to me, and i could see her giving mixed messages on this trip. I really want her back and Im going to present myself as best as i can. Any insights on her not wanting to be friends all of the sudden would be good. As well as anything i can do while on this trip. I was quite warm and friendly when we met, should i keep as much distance as possible without seeming like a jerk? Also funny enough there will be a another girl there (i have yet to meet in person) that ive gotten quite friendly with online. Any one have expiriences using this to my advantage? (she was always very jealous just thinking about me with other girls) Or would staying away completely from making her jealous be the best idea? After three days my ex will have left and ill be there with everyone else for the rest of the trip. thank you!
heartbroken1357 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 she left you for another guy and you still want her back and pine for her? Trust me i did exactly this with my ex, she left me for another guy it sucks, but it will get better. Find someone who deserves you, don't waste your time on her she made her decision, dug her grave, let her lay in it, focus on making yourself presentable for the other girl you have been talking too, see where things go there, just have fun and don't let your ex ruin the trip, i mean you don't have to be rude to her, but I wouldn't waste any time on her at all.
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