girlygirlgirl Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I was the dumper. We agreed to be friends after our breakup, he seemed very keen to. I hadn't seen him for ages, I only heard from others about him. He doesn't text me anymore or talk to me through FB. I saw him out a few weeks ago. He looks really healthy, muscular and toned. He apparently gets to start work in a gym soon, that was his goal for ages. I am really pleased for him. I spoke to him first that night and he was really short with me. He seemed way too relaxed and cool about it all. He seems very confident in himself. I got the impression he didn't have time for me, he seemed like he didn't want to speak to me. He seemed happy with his friends, he was laughing and smiling. Do you think he is over me? It would explain why he doesn't contact me. I just want to know, I don't mind. It sucks that we went from being in a relationship to barely being able to have a conversation. I thought that might happen though
SmithJ Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 you dumped him so he had no choice but to get over you. I think that you're seeing him happy now and you don't like it because he isn't begging to be with you. I think you should do the same, accept its over because you ended it and moved on. I think it's a bit selfish to dump someone and then ask them to be friends straight away, maybe in years to come but not straight away. He probably said he would be your friend because at the time he was so caught up in emotion that he would have said anything to keep you close, even if it was as a friend but now he's getting over it he doesn't need anything negative in his life. Saying that though, my ex split up with me and we were 'friendly' but then I decided I wanted to get over him so would be very brief in my texts which he hated, he kept texting asking if I was over him etc and it has become really messy. Do him a favour and don't contact him unless you want him back as it really isn't fair. Despite what is said it's pretty impossible to be friends straight away, it could take years. If you don't want him back just back off for a while. If you do want him back tell him but be prepared for him to say no. Good luck !
Philosoraptor Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 He seems to be moving on and doesn't want you a part of his life anymore. Nothing wrong with that, as everyone makes the decisions they feel are best for them. Hopefully you both continue doing well in your futures.
theonlyjuan Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I have read all your threads in the past. I love it when this happens. Why can't the dumper ever accept it when they move on? You obviously do care otherwise you wouldn't have made a thread about it. Grass ain't greener, huh? If I dumped someone I would not expect them to be friends with me, not right away. I think he's done well without you and your feeling hurt by it. Unfortunately for you this is when you may see a different side to him. You no longer have him under your control and he can do what he wants. This is when you notice they are not the same person you once knew. Breakups make people change
Inviv_girl Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I'm sorry... but why do expect him to be happy to see you again after the hurt you put him through? It is not fair to him to be friends with you after you dumped him. Now he is happy without you and it hurts you.. So yeah he is moving on and so you should do the same.
heartbroken1357 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 what the three posts above me say, you ended the relationship and now he's the stronger person out of it, he's just staying strong, friends with ex's rarely ever work, It's hurts like a bitch doesn't it? now you know how it feels to be rejected.. my opinion? just leave him alone, if he wants to talk to you and spend time with you, he will, if he doesn't make the effort he clearly thinks he's better off and happier without you
Zahara Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I'm not sure why you titled your post that way but it sounds like you are very entitled, being that you believe the dumpee should be extending you attention and courtesy that you think you deserve eventhough you ended it with him. Sorry to bust your ego, but yes, he is moving on and is likely over you.
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