Chris715 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 One of my female friends has been trying to set me up with one of her friends, thinking we would get along great together. I finally met her tonight as we hung out in a group setting. Introduced myself at the beginning, talked to her a good amount while in the group setting, that type of thing. She definitely seems my type and I would at least like a chance to date her but my question is: when's a good time to ask for a date? I didn't get her number or anything like that, will probably add her on Facebook soon. Would it be weird to ask her out after meeting her for the first time in a group setting? I know a lot of people will say "get to know her better" but I kind of feel like that's what a first/second date is for anyway. Should I go for it or be a little more patient, maybe let our mutual friend arrange a few more hang outs and go from there? Any advice would be great!
Lani Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Ask her straight away. Just go casual, like 'it was great to meet you, do you want to grab a drink/coffee/doughnut/slurpee sometime?' Via Facebook. No need to add her as a friend. I think the longer you leave it, the more awkward you'll feel to do it. Make it known that you're interested straight up. She's free to say no. 4
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I think getting to know her in a group setting is easier than a one-on-one setting. How receptive was she to your questions / conversations?
Author Chris715 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 I added her on Facebook, and I like your post Lani. I think asking her out sooner rather than later is a good idea and use the first few dates (if she's interested) to get to know each other that way. Facebook's obviously not ideal but whatever, only way of direct contact I have with her right now. 1
Author Chris715 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 I added her on Facebook, and I like your post Lani. I think asking her out sooner rather than later is a good idea and use the first few dates (if she's interested) to get to know each other that way. Facebook's obviously not ideal but whatever, only way of direct contact I have with her right now. We talked a decent amount. She laughed at a lot of stories/things I had to say and smiled in my direction, which is why I'm thinking she might be interested.
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 We talked a decent amount. She laughed at a lot of stories/things I had to say and smiled in my direction, which is why I'm thinking she might be interested. It seems like a decent possibility.
Author Chris715 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 It seems like a decent possibility. Thanks man I'd like to go into this thinking there's some chance she'll be interested. I'm still getting over a nasty break up with my ex so my confidence and self esteem have been dwindling as of late.
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks man I'd like to go into this thinking there's some chance she'll be interested. I'm still getting over a nasty break up with my ex so my confidence and self esteem have been dwindling as of late. Keep that confidence up! Be lively and cheerful and she'll probably go for a date.
Woop1337 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 (edited) Don't add her on Facebook, but do message her on it. Ask for her number. Wait a couple of days. Call her and ask her to meet up for smoothie, coffee, etc (not a real date). Wait several days, then take her on a real date. To answer the title of your post, OP. Sometimes it is too soon to ask for a date. But it's never to soon to ask for the number. You should've asked for her number on that group setting, the first time you met her. Edited August 16, 2013 by Woop1337
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Don't add her on Facebook, but do message her on it. Ask for her number. Wait a couple of days. Call her and ask her to meet up for smoothie, coffee, etc (not a real date). Wait several days, then take her on a real date. To answer the title of your post, OP. Sometimes it is too soon to ask for a date. But it's never to soon to ask for the number. You should've asked for her number on that group setting, the first time you met her. Is it really acceptable to just ask for a number over FB, from a person you don't know that well? That strikes me as odd.
Woop1337 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 It's only weird, to get her number on fb. if u guys were complete strangers to each other. But like u said u spent time talking to her during that group setting. So I'm assuming you two developed some sort of rapport with each other.
Author Chris715 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 I'm thinking I'll ask for her number tonight on facebook after work, text her for the next few days, and then see if she would be interested in getting coffee or something. Something along the lines of "hey, I had a great time getting to know you a bit last night. Can I get your number?"
rocksteady85 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Meh. I asked out this girl over Facebook, but granted, we were casual acquaintances. I hadn't seen her in years and the only thing I knew about her was that we had a lot of the same friends, and she drove a pink car. Other than that, absolutely nothing. She messaged me over the weekend (we are already facebook friends - and last weekend), and I asked her out on some one-on-one stuff. Next day, she invited me to join her for birthday drinks, and then I invited her back to my place. We only made out, but still. Just ask her on a date, man. Coffee. Drinks. Whatever.
Lani Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I'm thinking I'll ask for her number tonight on facebook after work, text her for the next few days, and then see if she would be interested in getting coffee or something. Something along the lines of "hey, I had a great time getting to know you a bit last night. Can I get your number?" No! Ask her out. Don't text her for a few days, that's online dating crap when you haven't met yet. Just do it, over Facebook and if she says yes then grab her number. I'm telling you, don't mess around. 1
Author Chris715 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 No! Ask her out. Don't text her for a few days, that's online dating crap when you haven't met yet. Just do it, over Facebook and if she says yes then grab her number. I'm telling you, don't mess around. Don't you think asking her out on Facebook is a little weird though? I feel like calling her and asking her after a couple days would be better and that just getting her number from Facebook is better... Still, I am tempted to just go for it despite the fact I don't know her that well.
rocksteady85 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Ask her out. Get her number in person for a second date, or as a means to confirm the date. I asked out my lady of interest on facebook. It's like texting nowadays since I use the messenger app.
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