fullc Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 My ex broke up with me out of the blue three months ago, at the beginning of summer. He had a really difficult time doing it, and most of his reasons seemed petty, as if he was reasoning with himself (for example, we have different friends). His main point, however, was that he "no longer felt the same way," although he could not give any explanation as to why. He also kept saying that this "didn't mean we couldn't be together again" The past three months we have been on limited contact. We've met up to hang out and hooked up a couple times. I guess I kept thinking that at the end of summer we would get back together, especially since the friends problem is not an issue at school (we're both college students from the same town-- at home we have different friends, but at school we hang out with the same people). I'm about to head back to school, and met up with him tonight. I know I shouldn't have, but I just wanted a definite answer about his feelings toward me before I truly moved on, because even after everything, I still want to be with him and only him. I asked him if there was any reason at all I shouldn't move on. He said no-- that he no longer had any romantic feelings towards me. It still doesn't make sense, since he is clearly still physically attracted to me and misses me and wants desperately for us to remain friends and stay in each others lives. He still couldn't give a real reason for why his feelings changed. We ended up talking about old times and laughing. At the end of the conversation, he asked if we could hug and I ended up in his lap. We held each other for a long time. I told him I was scared and he started crying and telling me he was scared too and that he missed me so much, but that this was the right thing and that this was the end. He said that he would never forget what we had, and that he would always care about me, but that it was over for real. He asked me to please not hate him because he wouldn't be able to stand that. We kissed goodbye. We decided that for now, its best that we try to learn and live on our own and talk to each other as little as possible. But, he told me he would always, always pick up the phone if I called and I told him I'd do the same. I'm really sad right now, because I really wanted to give the relationship another go because I love him desperately. But, I finally feel at peace, since I'm now able to let go of that tiny bit of hope he might be coming back. Sorry this was long, just wanted to get my feelings out!
Philosoraptor Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Seems like he may like you as a person and fwb, but doesn't want to pursue a committed relationship with you.
theonlyjuan Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Good that you feel like your letting go of any hope. Try a bit of NC you will be surprised how good you can feel after some time has passed
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