lovesucks76 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 We broke up about 12 days ago. No calls and no texts. I miss her so freaking much. I loved her more than anything. I still see her once a week in class but we don't say much to each other so it's almost like she's not there...almost! It hurts like hell sometimes and I even felt stupid because I cried on flight out of town this week. After my pathetic cry I decided "that's it". I decided to stop hoping to get back together and just gave up. Yep, I gave up on her. Well, since that decision I skipped the last couple classes so I wouldn't see her and decided to go on a date this weekend with a new girl. I told the new girl I just broke up but I enjoyed spending time with her. She agreed to go out. Amazingly, I feel much better now, I still miss my old GF but I feel like I'm finally moving on. I also was contacted recently by a girl that used to work with me and we flirted some in the past. What I'm saying is: Once you decide to move on things get better. I don't check email or texts like I used to. Get out there people, that's the only way. You will survive, it hurts but you will survive!!
templeofmax Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 If you love her so much then you are not moving on!!! If you have hope, you are not moving on. However, NC is the way to go anyhow.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 I see where you're coming from BUT I will always love her. I broke up because I knew it would never work out because of other circumstances. I don't blame her for it. Sometimes we need to realize that love is not everything. Other things need to be in order for you to be able to continue a relationship. I will always love her because she was a great girl and never lied to me but I hope to soon not be 'in love' with her. I think accepting the TRUTH will set us free. You don't need to despise someone to be able to move on. I do NOT have hope that we will get back together. When we first broke up I dreamed that things would work out but deep down I knew it was over. After all, I broke up with her. NOW, I'm ready to move forward with my life. I'm sick of missing her and the only way I will forget her is to stay busy and get out there and live my life. That's what I'm doing and I'm here to say that it's working...it doesn't mean I hate her and don't love her. It means I'm ready for new healthier possibilities. She's not bad, I'm not bad...we're just not good together.
templeofmax Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Then, you are actually talking from the angle of a dumper, and then my hope is getting crushed as a dumped!!! Goes to show that of course, the missing part is there and perhaps the love, but yes, its not enough. Maybe my ex figured this out after so much fighting but she break off a 2.5 year relationship after an altercation through a 2 line email, so things feel unfinished.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 12 days ago? Huh?? I guess since you are the dumper that makes sense. If I saw a dumpee talking about being free 12 days after a BU, I would think jr high school romance... Most of us on here are dumpees...
Echo000 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I see where you're coming from BUT I will always love her. I broke up because I knew it would never work out because of other circumstances. I don't blame her for it. Sometimes we need to realize that love is not everything. Other things need to be in order for you to be able to continue a relationship. I will always love her because she was a great girl and never lied to me but I hope to soon not be 'in love' with her. I think accepting the TRUTH will set us free. You don't need to despise someone to be able to move on. I do NOT have hope that we will get back together. When we first broke up I dreamed that things would work out but deep down I knew it was over. After all, I broke up with her. NOW, I'm ready to move forward with my life. I'm sick of missing her and the only way I will forget her is to stay busy and get out there and live my life. That's what I'm doing and I'm here to say that it's working...it doesn't mean I hate her and don't love her. It means I'm ready for new healthier possibilities. She's not bad, I'm not bad...we're just not good together. Only acceptance of reality, acceptance of the truth in the present moment indeed..will set one free.
Misfortune Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 It must be real nice being a dumper. The plotting, the future sight, the blindsiding, the quick recovery, the sage like wisdom anddddd on to the next. Call me cray but, I think you already "gave up on her" when you dumped her 12 days ago. It just isn't the same pain as a dumpee. Good job getting through the pain so quickly.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 I'm not over the pain but I'm sick of feeling this hopeless feeling. I loved this girl more than I've loved anyone ever but I need to be honest with myself and stop crying over spilled milk. Its over, it sucks, I hurt like a wounded animal but it's no one's fault, I will live. It wasn't meant to be. I've looked at our pictures together this week and had a little 'farewell' pity party and then released the pain....I just feel better now but it doesn't mean I will forget her or stop loving this amazing person. Hope this makes sense.
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