jkepler85 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I had two rough break ups this year. One which was almost 3 years long and which had been on the rocks for at least a year. I wasn't being respected, but I stuck it out and tried work things out, but ended up getting dumped. After a few months off and a little rebound/confidence building dating, I met a stunner and we entered an intense 2 month relationship, which ended suddenly with no reason from her and she hasn't said a peep since then. That was a bit over a month ago. I'm still feeling a bit jilted by this last girl because she was talking marriage, kids, houses, you know future stuff and then just pulled sudden 180 and disappeared. I'm starting to feel better about it though, drilling into my head that it wasn't my fault and that it's better to have happened now than later, it was only two months after all. Then last night my buddy mentioned that he bumped into my previous ex at some restaurant where she was on a date with some guy. Which has got me kind of down. I know it's been like 6 months, but still. I put up with so much crap from this girl and I feel like I got a really raw deal, I deal with her crap and get her back on track and got dumped. Next guy doesn't have to deal with any of the **** I had to endure, and just gets to have a good time. I know it's not rational and that I've been dodging bullets, but it's still the way I feel and I feel like I've just been continually let down or betrayed by these women I date and been dodging bullets. 1
Philosoraptor Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Things get better with time, but you have to be patient. Sounds like you moved a little quick with the second one though. As much hype as she was giving you at the start, seems like she was rebounding herself and moved on pretty quickly. Again just be patient and observant, and wait for the right fit rather than trying to make something fit. 1
MidwestUSA Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Look at it this way: sure, the new guy won't have to endure the cr*p that you did. He'll have a WHOLE NEW GINORMOUS TRUCKLOAD PILE of cr*p from her to deal with! Leopards don't change their spots. Let the new guy be on the rocks with her. Be glad you're rid of her. Smile! 2
Author jkepler85 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 Yes, I'm trying to get to the point where I see it that way. I spent nearly 3 years with this girl on an almost daily basis. But you know I cared for her and even though she betrayed me in many ways and hurt me in many more, I just can't make myself hate her or be glad to have her completely out of my life. I guess it takes more time. Ugh...why can't healing be as fast as some of these relationships ending.
Recommended Posts