mazda Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Hi folks Its pretty hard to keep it short on here but i will try my best lol Me and my ex broke up 4 years ago. She ended it. I was gutted Since the break up she has floated around from 1 guy to the next and unfortunately got a bit of a name for herself. We work together but not on the same team so i didnt really see her so it was out of sight out of mind. As of this week she is now back on my team with a bunch of new people. She is dating one of the new guys. I know she ended things and has turned into a bit of a monster......but.......everyone says she has turned this way since breaking up with me and they think she regrets ending things. Im pretty sure i know what replies i will get on here but wanted some independent opinions. Im not going to lie....i still have deep feelings for her despite whats gone on. Whats the best way to handle things at work as no doubt our paths will cross. If she regretted ending things she could have done something to change the way things went? Ive no doubt she still has some kind of feelings as when we have the odd chat if we see each other, people always comment how well we seem to get on and ask if somethings going on Any input from anyone on here?
Mcnulty Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 No mate, i think 4 years and the fact you work with her and see her, means that ship has sailed. You could always approach her and ask her straight out if there's a chance between you...worth a shot maybe.
richard9 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Basically she threw away a 4 year relationship to go be a sloot. Was she thinking about you when she was screwing those other guys? Have higher standards mate, find someone who cares, respects and considers your feelings. Someone who is willing to work through the problems in a relationship instead of running to the next guy when things get tough or uninteresting. If she regrets it, well tough, she made her choice. If you take her back it only shows her that she can leave again and you will take her back. Your choice of course, but she made her bed (literally) now she has to lay in it.
Author mazda Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks for the replies folks. I agree with both posts and think that theres zero chance of anything happening Now the next question is how do i treat her if i have to talk to her? Do i answer the questions she asks without asking any back or do i create conversation? The last thing i want is for her to think things are ok between us!
jesse93 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks for the replies folks. I agree with both posts and think that theres zero chance of anything happening Now the next question is how do i treat her if i have to talk to her? Do i answer the questions she asks without asking any back or do i create conversation? The last thing i want is for her to think things are ok between us! I think she will know that things aren't ok if you had a simple conversation, as long as there isn't any flirting or anything if you get straight to the point you should be fine, it's not like she will think "omg hes trying to get at me" when you say something as simple as "how are you doing?" but also, I would avoid contact as much as possible unless you have to talk to her. It's up to you how you want to treat it though if you don't care to know how her life is going don't force yourself to ask her.
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