vipassanasonic Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 This particular girl and I have had a bit of existing history with each other, which in the end didn't amount to anything a.k.a a relationship because I think she kinda freaked out that things were going too fast, plus she is super committed to her study. Thats was almost a year and a half ago and we are still good friends and we share one particularly strong interest interest in Rugby (so perfect), but she has also had a bit of background history with another bloke who I really quite dislike because he is belittling and sarcastic, but a lot of people find him to be the 'funny guy' because he is quite witty. He doesn't like me either, but we co exist for the sake of it. But he has over the last month made a concerted effort to cut of my one on one conversations with this girl, making detours to wherever he is walking to, to come and hit on her. Unfortunately he is been pretty successful and she has been spending a fair amount of spare time just chatting to him, and I get a few minutes a day. Is there anything I can do to stand out that is going to attract her, not only to talk to more regularly, but to actually make me a legitimate option she could date? I really like this girl and at one point before things got a bit too fast, she saw me as a viable partner and really liked me.
Woop1337 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 There is such a thing as going too fast. You blew it man. You should've gradually, stop talking to the woman. the past year and a half is a waste concerning your friendship with this woman. Because, you had an ulterior motive. Now she's entertaining, another man. The last thing you want to be is, friends, when she tells you she has a new boyfriend (this funny guy or another).
Adele0908 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 You could do what my ex did, which is bad mouth the new guy and tell her that he has a girlfriend and he's just trying to use her... It didn't work though. Just pushed me towards the new guy more and made my ex look like a lying scumbag. So the best thing at this point would be to let it go.
Author vipassanasonic Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 There is such a thing as going too fast. You blew it man. You should've gradually, stop talking to the woman. the past year and a half is a waste concerning your friendship with this woman. Because, you had an ulterior motive. Now she's entertaining, another man. The last thing you want to be is, friends, when she tells you she has a new boyfriend (this funny guy or another). Well in-between that time she has showed interest in me again intermittently. I told myself to get other her but I haven't found it that easy. I'm 20 days off finishing school and going to university in a few months so just think of this as a school environment. Because we share such a keen interest in the same things its hard to let go because she always comes up to me to talk about football or sport of some description so its difficult and she would be such a perfect match. And when a girl you like continues to come back to be half flirty/half best friend, the mixed messages are insane
hppr Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 How do you stand out as her only option? You don't. Waste of time, don't even try. Instead think about ways that you can be the guy who women try to stand out for, rather than the guy who is running after some bimbo in the hopes that she'll date him because he's 'nice'. 1
clia Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Why don't you just ask her out on a date? If she says yes, then she likes you. If she says no, she doesn't. 2
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