finishedpartying Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 Girlfriend said she needed time to see what she wanted. (Dated six months) She said I was everything she was looking for in somebody except I didn't go to church. So that was the excuse. I asked her if she wanted to break up she said no. You're talking like it's already over. She said for me not to go out and do anything foolish. 4 Days prior she was talking about marriage and having babies and we looked at some property. Said everything just felt right. I left her alone for 8 days when I see her out with another guy and she about breaks her neck looking at my vehicle. She knew I saw her. I met her at a public restaurant the next day to talk. She said are you hungry are we here to get something to eat. Like no big deal. So we talked and she acted like she still didn't want to break up so I told her she cheated on me and she said they didn't do anything. I said that's not the point. I looked her in the eye and said I really did love her and walked out the door. She said wait and ran up to my vehicle and said stop so I stopped and she said I can't It just didn't feel right. This Monday she comes back to work in the same office I work in. Just hurt need advice, didn't see it coming at all. Don't know what to do what she was thinking confused
SoleMate Posted November 7, 2004 Posted November 7, 2004 She said wait and ran up to my vehicle and said stop so I stopped and she said I can't It just didn't feel right. Let me understand...this is her saying, "I can't continue the relationship with you." ?? This Monday she comes back to work in the same office I work in. That makes it extra tough. I would be professional - courteous, but nothing more. And I would also start looking around for a new job. It seems like this came out of the blue for you. That may be what makes it particularly scary. It's possible that your ex-gf was a flighty kind of gal, and it is also possible that you are not skilled at taking the "emotional temperature" of a relationship. Please see <URL removed> for lots of detail on what makes people fall in love and keeps them in love. The house/baby talk may have sounded like a renewed vow of lifetime commitment to you, but it seems she was just trying out an idea. She may be committed to a vision of being married and having children, but not necessarily with you. I suspect you two did not really have a deep connection, and she did not feel bonded to you.
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