I have no idea at this point...

[MaxJ]

Hey everyone.

 

I'm Max and I'm from New York. The girl I like lives in the UK.

 

Alright so, I want to make an LDR with her. We've been talking for like 2 years now on and off but recently stuff has gotten really close between us. She told me over a span of a few months that she loved me and I just told her back that I loved her too. One day I ask her if she really meant it an she was scared. So I just told her that I loved her and that I meant it. Her response was that she meant that she loved me too but she doesn't know what to do because it's complicated because I live in American and she lives in the UK. So now we just keep talking but I haven't made any other moves.

 

I can't move to the UK, sadly, I need to fnish school and I don't know if I'd get a job in the UK to be honest. I can get her to America.

I really love this girl from the bottom of my heart. I've been losing sleep over this stuff, staying up untill 5 in the morning looking for answers and trying to find out what I should do. I am seriously in need of help here.

 

Please help me someone, what should I do next?

Edited August 15, 2013 by MaxJ

[Faith13/2]

I too am from NY and my SO is from the UK. I will be moving to the UK very soon

 

First off, I'm assuming you haven't met in person yet. That's the first step that needs to be taken to see if this relationship will actually work in "real life."

 

Now to continue with the rest I can understand you wanting to finish school, so maybe waiting would be a good plan until after that, but I also understand that an LDR is a very stressful thing without the physical aspect. It really all comes down to time and money at the end of the day, even though I hate to put it that way. You need to have that "real life" connection and really get to know one another. Next step would be either seeing if its possible to maybe transfer your education to the UK(some qualifications would need to be met though), if you were to finish school first maybe it is possible for you to find an occupation and get a work visa, and last thing I can honestly think of would be what I'm doing and that would be applying for a "fiance visa" that obviously would entail you getting married within 6 months of it getting accepted.

 

With all three of these option you will have to spend some money. Seeings how I don't know your financial situation I can understand that this may not be easy. But it's why I said "Time and money" All these processes take time, and every application for visas has a price, plane tickets, and financial requirements must be met.

 

As I said first and for most meet in person and see what the relationship is like and then focus on getting to be with one another full time if all goes well.

Edited August 15, 2013 by Faith13/2

[justwhoiam]

We've been talking for like 2 years now on and off but recently stuff has gotten really close between us.

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what should I do next?

I say: one step at a time. First of all, arrange to meet up with her. The cheapest flight will cost you around $600. Then book a room in some hotel for a couple of nights (friday and saturday). You should manage everything with a $1,000 budget. Then see how it goes and how you feel with her in person, what she's like around you, if there's chemistry between the two of you, etc. And you start from there.

[emi]

You need to meet her up before u can actually plan anything