joshssecretlove04 Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 [[font=courier new]color=indigo]Hey all, I am having an affair with a man that is himself also married and we are starting to fall for eachother, we just discussed this yesterday and he keeps saying i wish we could just switch partners. He keeps telling me he wants to be with me and all but we cant cause were both married. He treats me like i want to be treated...the way my husband dosent and vice versa. what do i do?????[/color][/font]
SoleMate Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 Well, you can do whatever you want. The sky's the limit. Perhaps a better question would be: "What will happen under a particular scenario?" Think of how you want to end up, and then make sure your actions give you the best chance at being where you want to be.
mysticalstar Posted November 7, 2004 Posted November 7, 2004 In this case I really don't think the sky is the limit. Are there kids involved? Because if there are, you really need to take another look at what you are doing. If there are kids involved that is very selfish because in the end the kids are the ones that suffer. Even if there aren't kids involved, you are married, plain and simple. there are certain boundaries that are NOT to be crossed when married, and cheating is one of them. If your husband isn't treating you the way you want to be treated, talk to him, or get marriage counseling. If that does not work, divorce and then consider having another relationship. The grass is not always greener on the other side just remember that before you go galavanting again with this man who also has a family. It isn't only you or him who will get hurt, the ones around you will also be affected. I know right now you might be on an extreme high and wanting more of this "affair" but sit down and really think about the consequences. because let me tell you, there are consequences to cheating and more than likely it will you be facing them.
Amberaine Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 The rumor is that if both of you do leave your partners the relationship has a huge failure rate. There's trust, seperating the family, etc etc. You may be wondering down the line why the hell did I do this. Will it really be worth it? If neither of you are interesting in working on your marriage why not just get out?
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