Dude420 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 So this girl and I have been dating quite a bit and we both are really into each other. Just recently I took her to a nice park during the night. We were alone, I finally made a move on her and we started making out for a bit. The issue however is that I can't make out with her for around 5 seconds. She wasn't really resistant or told me to stop, after a few seconds she pulls away. I go in for a second time, she responds positively and then pulls away again. Then we hug each other during a silent moment in the park. I'm trying to keep the make out session for longer, but I'm not sure of what to think of it, we're both really into each and are quite comfortable. Could it be that shy girl are unsure of what to do or is that they're not crazy of what the guy is doing?
SugarLips72 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 If a make out session is sloppy its not being done right. I love to kiss and am totally into making out. It is odd she doesn't like it unless all I can think is maybe she doesn't like the way you kiss? If I pause after a few seconds, then the guy isn't kissing me right.
Keenly Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Well, its the park, at night... And this is your first time kissing her it sounds like. Patience. 2
Author Dude420 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 (edited) To be honest, I don't understand the point of make out sessions that don't lead to sex. Unless it is very early in the relationship. Well, exactly, I'm trying to be more intimate. If a make out session is sloppy its not being done right. I love to kiss and am totally into making out. It is odd she doesn't like it unless all I can think is maybe she doesn't like the way you kiss? If I pause after a few seconds, then the guy isn't kissing me right. Maybe I'm not saying it right, she doesn't exactly jerk away, she would just stop. If she didn't like it, I don't think she would let me go in for more. I just stopped doing it because I wanted to give her respect. I'm not implying that I'm kissing her the right way, but all I'm doing is simply giving her a small open mouth kiss on the lips, no french kissing or anything. I was just getting the vibe that maybe she was shy and wasn't sure how to get into it. If not, how can I tell I'm getting better at kissing? Well, its the park, at night... And this is your first time kissing her it sounds like. Patience. Yes, she is shy, so I'm not trying to take things too fast. I've also kissed her before, but more of a peck on the lips. Edited August 15, 2013 by Dude420
coffeebean201 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Took a glance at your other post headings - lots of talk about touching. You have to relax. Women can't relax and make out with a guy who is keeping score on how much she "puts out" on each date. It is excruciating for the female, and it won't lead to anything serious. Try to let go of the scorecard on intimacy and get her having fun, relaxing, trusting you, sharing with you, getting to know your friends. Then, put a movie in the dvd player, and hopefully she cuddles with you...Watching a movie together is a tried and true way to get past some of the tense feelings at the beginning of a relationship.
Author Dude420 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 Like I said, I'm not trying to go fast on her, I'm aware that she sets the pace of the relationship. As a matter of fact, on the 5th date she did come to my place and watch a movie, and we did cuddle. Before the movie, we went hiking, then I made her supper and desert, which she liked. I didn't expect her to put out, I just wanted her to enjoy herself, but I do have to be a bit bold sometimes. I get the feeling I wrote my OP in a way where you guys interpret me being impatient, if it's that I apologize. I was only curious to see if some shy girls behave this way.
phineas Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 How about asking her why she don't want to kiss? Sounds to me like she actually isn't all that into you. Never met a woman who was into me that didn't want to kiss.
masonlikethejar Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 How about asking her why she don't want to kiss? Sounds to me like she actually isn't all that into you. Never met a woman who was into me that didn't want to kiss. Yeah me neither. Every time I've had this happen to me (once) I ended up figuring out that she just wasn't that into me and didn't have the guts to just fess up and say so. IMO if you have to question why she isn't really getting into it then it's probably that she just is in need of a cuddle buddy and doesn't want to just say so. In my past experience I was referencing before we did a lot of similar things we went on about 7 (what I thought were) dates. We cuddled, I went in for a kiss a time or two toward the end and then once it got to the point where I just couldn't figure out what was up I just asked her straight up what the deal was and if she was actually into me or what. Some times when you are up front and frankly asking they are just forced to tell yay or nay. That's what I would do anyway.
King_Crimson Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 As said above, it was either because it was your first time kissing and she's shy, she doesn't like kissing that much, or she's a different type of kisser. Like, for instance, my girlfriend will kiss for a few seconds then pull back and look into my eyes instead. Then back to kissing, etc. Every person is different.
Author Dude420 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 As said above, it was either because it was your first time kissing and she's shy, she doesn't like kissing that much, or she's a different type of kisser. Like, for instance, my girlfriend will kiss for a few seconds then pull back and look into my eyes instead. Then back to kissing, etc. Every person is different. I'm going to have to go with this post and give her the benefit of the doubt. It wasn't the first time we kissed, but all the kisses beforehand were just pecks on the lips. So really it was the first time I've shown more intimacy as I kissed her on the neck, the head, the cheek, then gentle open lip kisses on her lips. Like I said, she didn't push me off or anything and there were no signs of resistance. She just stopped after about 5 seconds then hugs me for a quiet moment.
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