Is guy shy or disinterested?

[milkxdoll]

Hi, I'm new. I've been enduring some pretty confusing behavior from a guy I met.

We both are in the service industry, working across the street from one another. We can see each other from our windows and had been checking one another out until one day he decided to come up to my cafe and order a drink whilst at the same time complimenting my eyes. I said thank you and then complimented his tie or something corny like that. Besides brief "hi. How are yous" and flirting with each other from windows, we haven't ever talked. But the small flirting had continued. The other night I was walking to meet my friend at a bar when we spotted each other in passing. Now let me just clarify that HE walked up to ME, put HIS hand around MY waist and hugged me. I wasn't expecting that at all. I asked him how he was and if he was meeting friends and he said he was on his way home because he had had a fever for the past couple of days and was just going to bed. I told him to feel better and then after that he said "I wish I didn't have a fever because I'd get a drink with you". I said "but you should go to bed and get better" and the he said with almost no eye contact "If I wanted to take you out for a drink some time, would you say yes?" and I was like "yeah, I'd love that". we then kicked the dirt some more and then parted awkwardly without exchanging numbers. A week and a half rolls by and he hadn't asked me out. Okay, that's fine. He doesn't have my number. I decide to write a quick note saying "Hey, we never exchanged number -number-" and I signed it. Another two weeks goes by after that and still nothing. I don't even know if he got my note. Well, just a few days ago he waltzes up to my cafe and apologizes for not calling: "I just want to apologize for not contacting you. It's not out of disinterest, I've just been really busy" and so I'm like "oh, that's okay".. of course... and he's like "i have this this and this day off" and I'm like "you know if you want to hang out you can text me when you want to" and he was like "yeah, okay!" and left and now it's been another week because that was on friday? yeah, Friday. Have heard nothing. WTF. Maybe I was too short with him when I told him to text me? Maybe he's not really interested but for some reason is trying to be nice about it? but then why go on to tell me which days he has off? And for the record, I haven't approached him or confronted him about it. I've been waiting patiently but I'm about ready to be over it. I just don't know. Am I being put on the back burner? I feel like he get's really shy around me? I'm really shy around him too and painfully awkward. Maybe that turned him off?:confuse: HEELPP. someone give me something please

[Rikko]

Hi, I'm new. I've been enduring some pretty confusing behavior from a guy I met.

We both are in the service industry, working across the street from one another. We can see each other from our windows and had been checking one another out until one day he decided to come up to my cafe and order a drink whilst at the same time complimenting my eyes. I said thank you and then complimented his tie or something corny like that. Besides brief "hi. How are yous" and flirting with each other from windows, we haven't ever talked. But the small flirting had continued. The other night I was walking to meet my friend at a bar when we spotted each other in passing. Now let me just clarify that HE walked up to ME, put HIS hand around MY waist and hugged me. I wasn't expecting that at all. I asked him how he was and if he was meeting friends and he said he was on his way home because he had had a fever for the past couple of days and was just going to bed. I told him to feel better and then after that he said "I wish I didn't have a fever because I'd get a drink with you". I said "but you should go to bed and get better" and the he said with almost no eye contact "If I wanted to take you out for a drink some time, would you say yes?" and I was like "yeah, I'd love that". we then kicked the dirt some more and then parted awkwardly without exchanging numbers. A week and a half rolls by and he hadn't asked me out. Okay, that's fine. He doesn't have my number. I decide to write a quick note saying "Hey, we never exchanged number -number-" and I signed it. Another two weeks goes by after that and still nothing. I don't even know if he got my note. Well, just a few days ago he waltzes up to my cafe and apologizes for not calling: "I just want to apologize for not contacting you. It's not out of disinterest, I've just been really busy" and so I'm like "oh, that's okay".. of course... and he's like "i have this this and this day off" and I'm like "you know if you want to hang out you can text me when you want to" and he was like "yeah, okay!" and left and now it's been another week because that was on friday? yeah, Friday. Have heard nothing. WTF. Maybe I was too short with him when I told him to text me? Maybe he's not really interested but for some reason is trying to be nice about it? but then why go on to tell me which days he has off? And for the record, I haven't approached him or confronted him about it. I've been waiting patiently but I'm about ready to be over it. I just don't know. Am I being put on the back burner? I feel like he get's really shy around me? I'm really shy around him too and painfully awkward. Maybe that turned him off?:confuse: HEELPP. someone give me something please

 

Here's what I think. If he genuinely likes you he'll find a way to be around you without having you have to hang there thinking whens he going to call and ask me out. If he still hasnt made the move yet like a man then forget about him. Move on. He's not worth it.

[white]

Haha that's got to be so freaking awkward, standing at the counter all day at work watching each other across the street through shop windows. I'd have been fired months ago for mooning against the glass or wearing a Nixon mask or something.

 

Sounds to me like he's an idiot. He comes across to say hi and doesn't get your number. You give him it in the end anyway and he doesn't use it. He comes across to apologise for not calling and you tell him you want him to call. He still doesn't. But he still comes across.

 

I suggest if he won't sack up, you do. Go across there this time, sometime midweek, ask when he gets off work, and does he want to go for a coffee. Let's see him kick up dirt and hesitate then.