coolgirl16 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Hi everyone, I just wanted to see all your input on my situation and I would be really really happy to get any feedback. I am sorry this is so long... To start off, we were a complicated couple and we fought a lot, I know he loves me so much, he always told me. He told me the only reason he was here was because of me and, we are pretty young and in our culture, dating is not really accepted at a younger age but he did tell his parents about me which meant so much. They weren't happy but it didn't matter to him and he told them he wanted to stay with me forever. Sometimes when we get into a fight we sometimes break up but we always get back together with in a day or two maybe more after we text each other. Sometimes it takes a lot of convincing but we are finally together again. I love him, he makes me so happy, but I think he is a bit bipolar, but I will always be supportive of him. Sometimes he gets so angry during a fight and things get heated up when he leaves. We have been together for over 1.5 years. I was his first relationship ever and before we dated in grade 11, he had liked me since grade 9. We planned so much together, we are even going to the same college, and I was really grateful. About six days ago, we got in a fight and he told me i was constantly unhappy and he felt like a burden to me, I told him that he knows there's stuff going on with my family and when he gets mad at me it really doesn't make me any happier. I said i cant be happy all the time but i love him more than anything. then he started getting mad and saying that i can never be happy with him and he broke it off with me. Later I msged him and i explained my side of the situation and how it doesn't help when he is getting mad at me, he only got more mad and we started talking about his ego and how he is a bit egotistical (he thinks he is mostly right). Idk if thats just how some guys are...anyway i love him despite that, and then he told me to go away so i said alright ill go, bye. Then I waited, usually he comes back or i go back to him in a few days. In our fight before this, he got mad and broke it off with me and then came back at the end of the day and said sorry. I stopped thinking much of it since thats just how he recacts when hes mad. But now...Its been like 6 days since we talked..i miss him so much, I did everything with him I just dont know what happened. Yesterday, I msged him on the fifth day after not speaking to him and I told him I missed him and I wanted to talk and I love him, I also told him he did make me happy and I think about him all the time. He never replied, usually he replies at the end of the day but still nothing, this morning I begged him to not leave me and come back and still I have no response. I asked my friend to check his instagram and he did, because I wasnt following my bf, but hes following me but his profile is on private. After my friend checked, he told me there was a video of him with his friends in a car and people were talking and he was holding some weed or cigs. Idk...it sounded like he was having fun. I miss him...Idk what to do but I really want him back. My mother and my sister told me to stop msging him and calling him now, I havent since this morning. He wont reply to anything and we are supposed to start university in a few weeks. My boyfriend and I have done everything together, he doesnt really talk to other girls at all, just his guy friends. He easily gets frustrated, and we both lost our v-cards to each other. I just really love him and we were so excited to be together in university because we were finally gonna be away from our families and we could see each other all the time since we would be living on the res. everytime I think about him I just start breaking down and crying..I keep trying to distract myself but it doesnt help..I dont wanna get over him.. Do you guys have any advice on how to get him back or what to do next? I am realy confused, I miss him so much. I want to work on myself and make him see how good I am, so he will miss me and I want to do it for myself so I am not so unhappy anymore. I just want him back..what do I do?
CrystalCastles Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I think you need to let him go. Or at least, give him space. I know it's hard, but you both are young and it seems like this guy is "the one" but trust me, you'll still have so many opportunities to meet new people, and other men that you might like more. He doesn't seem very mature.
Author coolgirl16 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 I know but I love him a lot, I don't want to. I love being with him and he's a great guy. Should I go NC? And just wait for him to go back...it's just another fight. I really know he loves me I just don't get why he's so stubborn.
Pookie5 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Okay this reminds me of my relationship. I also started talking to him in 9th grade, started going out in 11th grade, lost my v card to him in 11th. We both had a ton of fighting and he appeared bipolar. BUt i wanna give you some advice: Take it with a grain of salt, because only you know your relationship best. Basically, you guy sounds immature and he seems to like you but want to have fun and screw around get high.. Basically either he will come back and keep going away until he grows up and becomes serious. I don't think you have a huge problem.. he isn't there for you when your family is going through hard times. That should be the highlight. I know you love him but you need to give him space and let him know you love him but are fine leaving him if he treats you like this because it isn't keeping you happy when he lashes out.. personally speaking.. my bf acted that way when he was cheating and young.. once he gradutaed college.. and became serious.. things became different.. it might be a bipolar disorder. because mine still acts that way sometimes.. you need to have a talk with him.. show him this post.. and tell him that if he love you he will learn and so will you from each others mistakes.. or else just leave.. tell him you aren't afraid to walk away.. sometimes guys need a little chase..
Author coolgirl16 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 I think he is very much that guy who always wants me when he can't have me and he definitely needs the chase. He's that kind if guy, he always gets curious and msgs me a day or two after the fight, because he is wondering what I'm up to. Did you leave your boyfriend or tell him that you will leave him if he continues to act immature? What was his reaction and are you still with him? This all just happened out of the blue we do fight a lot but we always love each other and we have so many plans plus he told his parents which I can't stress is a HUGE deal for us. How do I tell him all those things when he isn't even talking to me, and he's ignoring me? I kind of begged him to come back today, but I stopped and I even called him twice but no answer. What do I do next?
soccerrprp Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 To start off, we were a complicated couple and we fought a lot... Are you certain you are in love? Want this to be the norm in your relationship? Go NC. He needs time to think or has decided to walk away, but you should leave him be until he's ready to make contact with you.
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