sportygirl84 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I had a question about dating concerning gifts and giving. I have been dating this really great guy for 2 weeks. Everything is going great. No expectations and going with the flow... until he bought me my favorite football team sweatshirt. We aren't exclusive but I am wondering what this means, him buying me clothes? Thanks guys!
rocksteady85 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Means he's still in the "trying to impress you" stage and seeing how well you accept gifts.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Nothing...just means he was being thoughtful or using it to win some big brownie points, don't read into it and just take it as a nice gesture. 3
TB Rhine Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I've heard this is actually a really big no-no (re, buying women gifts - especially even remotely romantic gifts - before engaging physically or "getting serious" with them). Just on normal relationship advice forums like this, not a PUA thing or whatnot. I can personally say that I'm a gift buyer, and it's never really gotten me anywhere. I don't necessarily know that it's hurt, either, but as I said, I've been advised to that effect. What do you think, ladies? Premature gifts a turn-off? The OP certainly seems to have been disquieted, if not exactly turned off by it.
hestheone66 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 wgen we met it was just for casual fun. neither of us 'believe' expectations of monogamy are healthy. he is reserved and bit shy. i am outgoing with busy social life. right from 1st meeting we were so compatible. he started buying and taking pleasure in spoiling me with gifts and sexually..he really enjoys pleasing me. the gift guving ramped up in recent montg. very extravagant gifts. he is comfortably off and i have always struggled..single mum etc..so i asked him if his increased gift giving indicated he wanted to change the nature of our arrangement ..he said no..so we continue non exclusive in words tho. in practice we spend most of our free time with each other. i think he just enjoys my happiness and possibly makes himself good to treat me like a princess with no expectations as he knew i had escaped from a long term abusive r'ship. i say if the guy is generous and enjoys buying gifts let him
pteromom Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 What do you think, ladies? Premature gifts a turn-off? The OP certainly seems to have been disquieted, if not exactly turned off by it. Depends on what it is. If it is jewelry, it's a "run for the hills" thing. But if a guy were to pick up on something I love while we were having a conversation, and then give me a little gift related to it, I would think he was paying attention to who I am, and it would be sweet.
bentleychic Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I'd think it's sweet, but I'm a huge gift giver. I like to pay attention and do sweet little things for the person that I care about. Normally that's baking cakes or things that they like, but I'll also do gifts. That's my "love language". Current partner says it makes him feel like a girl and that I give him gifts more than anyone he's ever been with. LOL I've slowed up a lot b/c he's not totally comfy with it, but it's my way of showing him that I care. 1
Skyraider829 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I had a question about dating concerning gifts and giving. I have been dating this really great guy for 2 weeks. Everything is going great. No expectations and going with the flow... until he bought me my favorite football team sweatshirt. We aren't exclusive but I am wondering what this means, him buying me clothes? Thanks guys! Um, that he likes you. I think that's a very kind gesture towards a girl you like. I would do the same for a girl I like if I knew she really liked something. Not after one date obviously, but after two or three weeks - why not?
dasein Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 It doesn't really mean anything, but is a bit too much too soon IMO. No cause for concern unless he keeps on with the gifting at this stage and it gets more expensive. Good luck.
MidwestUSA Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Accept it, thank him, and make sure you wear it often in his presence. It was his decision; not your job to overthink it. If it bothers you, you could send it to me.
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 It is a good sign. On our 3rd date [day 3 of dating] my mister surprised me with some really nice new perfume.
Sith Apprentice Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Buying gifts for a woman you're not dating is a textbook AFC move that never works.
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