peter_g_1985 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I split from my girlfriend 6 years ago and I took it pretty hard. She has been the most compatible person that I have ever been with and I haven’t had a successful relationship since. I think I keep ruining them because I have still been comparing to her. Although we were incredibly sexually compatible she was a gold digger and I am not a rich man. She left me for some really rich dude so she no longer had to work, had all the money she needed, travelled the world etc. About 6 months ago I got a knock at the door and it was her. The details are not relevant but long story short he’s a dud in bed and she wanted me. I wont lie, the sex is incredible, we are seeing each other 2 or 3 times a week but she has made it very clear that she is not going to leave her sugar daddy (my words, not hers, she hates it when I call him that). I’m really stuck here. On one hand I want to tell everyone in the hope that they will split and I can have her myself but then I realize that she will just find another rich guy. On the other hand I sometimes feel guilty because she is cheating and I am enabling that so I think I should just send her on her way. But why should I miss out on something so good? By staying with her I have no chance of a relationship myself but I am prepared to make that sacrifice. Is it wrong for me to continue? I am not condoning her cheating but that is between the two of them, for my part this is purely sexual. I just need to win the lottery and she’s be all mine.
almond Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 why should I miss out on something so good? What's good is living a fulfilling life, and making decisions that you are proud of. Being in a healthy, loving relationship is also something that I would classify as "so good." You shouldn't miss out on these things - so ditch her and work on moving on properly. Sleeping with a dishonest woman that is using everyone around her is not "good."
Author peter_g_1985 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 Sleeping with a dishonest woman that is using everyone around her is not "good." I hear what you are saying and I cannot argue that she is being dishonest. But she is honest with me. Is she using me? Sure. But I am using her as well. Not a great base for a relationship but that is not what we have, it is all just purely physical. To put it in a bit more perspective, I have some rather weird fetishes. It is hard to find women who share these desires. My ex not only shares these desires but is truly into it and initiates it. It is hard to turn away from that.
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