saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Care to discuss on something different. I am all ears.
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Two completely different kinds of love. That's like comparing apples and satellites. 1
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Two completely different types of love. May as well throw my parents in the mix too. How about the pets? My best friend? 2
KungFuJoe Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Two completely different kinds of love. That's like comparing apples and satellites. Pretty much this. I have a spouse I'm crazy in love with and kids that I would die for. But the love is so different it's incomparable.
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Two completely different types of love. May as well throw my parents in the mix too. How about the pets? My best friend? Fur babies ? LOL 2
sweetkiwi Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Care to discuss on something different. I am all ears. I don't have children or a spouse but I know there's no comparison.
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I don't have children or a spouse but I know there's no comparison. Nor do i but why do i feel like i would end up loving my wife more like my dad did ? (talking about my mom )
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Still waiting to hear an answer. They say its different type of love. LOL .
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 But there isn't an answer. They are two completely different kinds of love, and aren't comparable. That's like asking "What do you like more... coffee or chocolate?" There's no right answer!
GorillaTheater Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 At this point? I'm almost sad to say my children, because I believe it should be my wife.
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Care to discuss on something different. I am all ears. one is a conditional love......unfortunately for most...... spousal love is conditional on not breaking deals and commitments made..........love for a child...unconditional...absolutely should be unconditional eternally....no matter what they do, what you dont agree with,anything that you dont support it is a god given right to look after a child and love that child.....people have to accept that right and respect it..and feel blessed....two totally different forms of love....the human heart is able to love two ways quite easily.......deb 1
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Nor do i but why do i feel like i would end up loving my wife more like my dad did ? (talking about my mom ) Did your dad not show you he loved you too? The thing about having kids is this... when you get married, your spouse has your heart. When you have children, your child doesn't take up some of the existing space, leaving less for your spouse. Your heart GROWS and there is twice as much love. 1
Red Wolverine Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Always my kids but it's not a fair comparison, especially now that my divorce is almost final. I used to think kids were the natural priority but now I believe your spouse should be because if you're ok as a couple, your kids will be. Oh well, water under the bridge now. 1
M30USA Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 one is a conditional love......unfortunately for most...... spousal love is conditional on not breaking deals and commitments made..........love for a child...unconditional...absolutely should be unconditional eternally....no matter what they do, what you dont agree with,anything that you dont support it is a god given right to look after a child and love that child.....people have to accept that right and respect it..and feel blessed....two totally different forms of love....the human heart is able to love two ways quite easily.......deb See I disagree. If your child is a mass murderer, you do NOT take their side.
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 See I disagree. If your child is a mass murderer, you do NOT take their side. You don't take their side, but you also don't stop loving them. 5
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 one is a conditional love......unfortunately for most...... spousal love is conditional on not breaking deals and commitments made..........love for a child...unconditional...absolutely should be unconditional eternally....no matter what they do, what you dont agree with,anything that you dont support it is a god given right to look after a child and love that child.....people have to accept that right and respect it..and feel blessed....two totally different forms of love....the human heart is able to love two ways quite easily.......deb We love our parents unconditionally too. But why one would put conditions on love ? When you love someone .you simple Love right ? Or do we care how much money he makes , or how beautiful she is etc etc What if a guy lost his job or a woman lost her beauty then ? Love lost ? Because it is a conditional love ?
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Did your dad not show you he loved you too? The thing about having kids is this... when you get married, your spouse has your heart. When you have children, your child doesn't take up some of the existing space, leaving less for your spouse. Your heart GROWS and there is twice as much love. Nope. He is an amazing dad. We still have a blast together but i just know who is his no 1. I mean they are married for 30 years now . I love it. 2
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Nope. He is an amazing dad. We still have a blast together but i just know who is his no 1. I mean they are married for 30 years now . I love it. Sounds like a happy family.
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 See I disagree. If your child is a mass murderer, you do NOT take their side. Would you stop loving your parents if they commit some serious crime ? I don't think i will take their side but i would still love them. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 See I disagree. If your child is a mass murderer, you do NOT take their side. it has been proven time and time again....that people who mass murder have had some form of issues in familial life adn or childhood bullying..........a lack of love and affection......a distant and or abusive parent...a school yard full of ignorance and callous behavior.....unconditional love....is not unconditional support for poor choices or horrid ones.........it is love fro the person regardless of what you feel they do is wrong or abhorrently wrong...when you love someone you want them to face the consequences for their actions.........doesnt mean you stop loving them.......it would be hard to love someone who has taken someone elses life.........but if it were me....i would eb looking deeper into what i had done to raise a child that turned into someone who thought that was the thing to do and taking responsibility on my own shoulders........deb
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Sounds like a happy family. Yes , a very happy family. They want me to settle down as well but i always make excuses .
xxoo Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 It's a different love. I love my children enormously, but increasingly at arm's length. I can't hold them forever. They need to stretch their wings and fly; that's the goal. My spouse is my partner. I hold him forever. He's the one I chose, and he is the one that chose me. Over a lifetime, the great love of my life is my husband, not my children. They are destined to be the great love of someone else's life. 6
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 We love our parents unconditionally too. But why one would put conditions on love ? When you love someone .you simple Love right ? Or do we care how much money he makes , or how beautiful she is etc etc What if a guy lost his job or a woman lost her beauty then ? Love lost ? Because it is a conditional love ? I stated conditional love for some spouses....this is the conditions i was talking about ....faithfulness( fidelity.)........no abuse........honesty...integrity... i actually love a spouse unconditionally as well.....because i am idiot and i forgive too much........but....even i had my limits(my breaking point) in that regard but then again ...i forgave him and we are friends those were the conditions i was thinking about, as far as unconditional love for parents go....for sure.......my father doesnt talk to me he disinherited me because i didnt continue in the navy........and i turned out to be an unmarried mother...i still love him for all the wonderful things and times we had growing up up he was extremely strict...for a reason......and i still love him even though he cant stand the sight of me./........it makes me sad if anything.......unconditional love can eb the most heart breakingly attitude to have......because it means forgiveness no matter what...and sometimes....its really hard to forgive someone when they break your heart, abandon you, desert you..can be done though...if you believe in unconditional love.........d.eb
Author saveamale Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I stated conditional love for some spouses....this is the conditions i was talking about ....faithfulness( fidelity.)........no abuse........honesty...integrity... i actually love a spouse unconditionally as well.....because i am idiot and i forgive too much........but....even i had my limits(my breaking point) in that regard but then again ...i forgave him and we are friends those were the conditions i was thinking about, as far as unconditional love for parents go....for sure.......my father doesnt talk to me he disinherited me because i didnt continue in the navy........and i turned out to be an unmarried mother...i still love him for all the wonderful things and times we had growing up up he was extremely strict...for a reason......and i still love him even though he cant stand the sight of me./........it makes me sad if anything.......unconditional love can eb the most heart breakingly attitude to have......because it means forgiveness no matter what...and sometimes....its really hard to forgive someone when they break your heart, abandon you, desert you..can be done though...if you believe in unconditional love.........d.eb I have never been in love ever. So i don't how how romantic love feels like but i want it to be unconditional (the way i described in my previous post) . Ofcourse, you may divorce if your spouse cheat on you but would the love fade ? No idea. This whole love thing is complicated and hard to understand.
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