This is so difficult..

[coolgirl16]

Hi everyone, I just wanted to see all your input on my situation and I would be really really happy to get any feedback. I am sorry this is so long...

 

To start off, we were a complicated couple and we fought a lot, I know he loves me so much, he always told me. He told me the only reason he was here was because of me and, we are pretty young and in our culture, dating is not really accepted at a younger age but he did tell his parents about me which meant so much. They weren't happy but it didn't matter to him and he told them he wanted to stay with me forever. Sometimes when we get into a fight we sometimes break up but we always get back together with in a day or two maybe more after we text each other. Sometimes it takes a lot of convincing but we are finally together again. I love him, he makes me so happy, but I think he is a bit bipolar, but I will always be supportive of him. Sometimes he gets so angry during a fight and things get heated up when he leaves. We have been together for over 1.5 years. I was his first relationship ever and before we dated in grade 11, he had liked me since grade 9. We planned so much together, we are even going to the same college, and I was really grateful.

 

About six days ago, we got in a fight and he told me i was constantly unhappy and he felt like a burden to me, I told him that he knows there's stuff going on with my family and when he gets mad at me it really doesn't make me any happier. I said i cant be happy all the time but i love him more than anything. then he started getting mad and saying that i can never be happy with him and he broke it off with me. Later I msged him and i explained my side of the situation and how it doesn't help when he is getting mad at me, he only got more mad and we started talking about his ego and how he is a bit egotistical (he thinks he is mostly right). Idk if thats just how some guys are...anyway i love him despite that, and then he told me to go away so i said alright ill go, bye. Then I waited, usually he comes back or i go back to him in a few days. In our fight before this, he got mad and broke it off with me and then came back at the end of the day and said sorry. I stopped thinking much of it since thats just how he recacts when hes mad.

 

But now...Its been like 6 days since we talked..i miss him so much, I did everything with him I just dont know what happened. Yesterday, I msged him on the fifth day after not speaking to him and I told him I missed him and I wanted to talk and I love him, I also told him he did make me happy and I think about him all the time. He never replied, usually he replies at the end of the day but still nothing, this morning I begged him to not leave me and come back and still I have no response. I asked my friend to check his instagram and he did, because I wasnt following my bf, but hes following me but his profile is on private. After my friend checked, he told me there was a video of him with his friends in a car and people were talking and he was holding some weed or cigs. Idk...it sounded like he was having fun. I miss him...Idk what to do but I really want him back. My mother and my sister told me to stop msging him and calling him now, I havent since this morning. He wont reply to anything and we are supposed to start university in a few weeks.

 

My boyfriend and I have done everything together, he doesnt really talk to other girls at all, just his guy friends. He easily gets frustrated, and we both lost our v-cards to each other. I just really love him and we were so excited to be together in university because we were finally gonna be away from our families and we could see each other all the time since we would be living on the res. everytime I think about him I just start breaking down and crying..I keep trying to distract myself but it doesnt help..I dont wanna get over him..

 

 

Do you guys have any advice on how to get him back or what to do next? I am realy confused, I miss him so much. I want to work on myself and make him see how good I am, so he will miss me and I want to do it for myself so I am not so unhappy anymore. I just want him back..what do I do?

[supaflyz]

Before you think about getting him back, I suggest you wait a few weeks or even a months to let your feeling simmer down and think straight. Do you really want him back or do you miss his companionship. Its only been 6 days so I know the feelings are still fresh. You be surprised how you may feel for him in a few weeks or months.

[coolgirl16]

thanks for the reply, and yeah you are right its just really hard. I miss him tons and we have never really gone without talking this long. I do love him, hes awesome and hes like my best friend, I shared everything with him. Maybe that will change if we never get back together, but I just wanna know his side, and how he feels like a guy's perspective....Is he just mad or something..like he always does, he could never leave me for good, everytime he tried he would come back but this is longer than usual...and hes ignoring me, not a single word. He would usually come back and say I miss you, or some sort of contact..Do you think maybe he just needs time? Should I not msg him at all anymore and just practice no contact? I know he see's my instagram..and he was always curious what I do, and when he sees me happy he wants to always come back and see what Im up to usually. SO should I post some pics or something and try to act happy?

[supaflyz]

Lol your bf is kind of like me. I could never walk away from my ex. I would be mad at her, but then I would come back and tell her I miss her. She was the one that walk away for good. The one with the empty promises. Yeah give him some time and see where it goes. 6 days isn't that long.

[coolgirl16]

Thanks for your help, I was thinking about sending him another msg since I previously begged him to come back but I was gonna mention that, I miss him and every relationship has ups and downs and something along the lines of that but maybe I shouldn't. He kind of likes the attention and likes me to stop him from leaving, to him its like some sort of reassurance, other times when I haven't gone after him he said things like you give up so easily and it doesnt even seem like you want me in your life. I dont know, maybe he is really mad that I didn't msg him for 4 days straight. Im not sure if the MSG is such a good idea, maybe I should leave him alone, he gets curious all the time.. but Im not sure it will work either. Ugh this feels like forever, and I sound like an annoying girlfriend.

[coolgirl16]

if anyone else has any other advice i would really appreciate it...