NvrLetUDown Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hey Guys i'm new to LS and thought i'd share my story, my ex and I had dated for a year and a half when suddenly she started to feel distant and less intimate. We are both 21 and going into our final years of university. She is trying to get into a professional program that is highly competitive and she says that she doesn't feel the same way anymore and does not want a committed relationship at this point in her life. It's been two weeks of NC and we lived together for 4 months for one term (with 3 roommates) and everything was great. She's been working 7 days a week in July and August and told me she was having these feelings of breaking up on and off. We dated for a year and had a break back in February but we settled it when we moved back in together and everything was great again. However, once she got stressed she had poor eating habits and blocked herself from everyone around her (including me). Summer was suppose to be a time where we would have fun and do new things together, until she started volunteering, working 2 jobs (7 days) and doing summer school. I was her first serious relationship and we shared a lot of first time experiences together so to speak. I didn't get it then but I understand now why she had to do what she did. It sucks and i still miss her but hey it's been about 2 weeks. She told me it was all about timing as well for her, and when we started dating in the middle of second year, it was fine but now things are getting serious in terms of class. Thoughts?
Philosoraptor Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Sounds like she was pretty straight up with things. Getting her professional life together is more important to her right now than her relationship with you. She seems to have a plan to move forward with life. You need to find a way to move on and do the same.
JDPT Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 It appears that she has all her ducks lined up in a row, call it bad timing if you will with regards to your relationship with her. She is very determined and so will you about moving forwards. Get started with your plans and things you will like to accomplish, keep busy with those. I understand how difficult it is to lose someone but you have to find that inner strengths and keep moving forward day in and day out.
xanitus Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 kind of similar story to me, you can read my story from my profile. Only difference was the girl I was with was 18 not 21. She pretty much gave me the same lines as your ex gave to you. It's been 1 week NC and I miss her. But the consensus seems to be that at that at those ages people change alot, their feelings and wants in life change. Even if u were the perfect bf you can't control their inner desires. It really is a case of bad timing, or "GIGS" as some people would call it. I'm just trying to move on and protect myself from now, and still hope that one day I will reconnect with her. But that day wont come until I've completely moved on, and that will take a LONG TIME. I guess if you had a good relationship then that chance is a bit higher, but don't count on it.
Author NvrLetUDown Posted August 16, 2013 Author Posted August 16, 2013 Thanks for the support guys! ive been keeping busy with work to save up for tuition and going on a trip to New york (from Toronto) with my family so some new experiences to take my mind off things. It'll be hard in the fall when we go back to school together but guess i gotta pony up and move on for now. This forum has really helped me, glad to have found LS! (but not really if you get what im saying
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