Babolat Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Don't concentrate on how you appear but instead on how you act. Get close to them (maybe even gently brush into them), look straight into their eyes and smile. Eyes and smile..you seeing a common message now!
73Fras Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Thank you everyone. First I want to add I want to do this for me, not necessarily to meet a man. I am in the US. I know that my eyes, or my smile could make a difference, but I cannot change the way I look at people or how I smile at will. I have tried sexy lingerie and liked what it did but then it seemed to make me only more frustrated that I sat there frozen. I know that more revealing clothing might work, but somehow I either think things are tacky, or my inner prude fights my inner adventurous spirit and I chicken out. I think I would like someone who tells me to wear a specific thing. Also feeling overdressed like I try to hard would make me even more tense. I think it is a vicious cycle – that I need to break. I get this - I was recently out at a bar having a small snack and a beer and this really good looking guy was a few seats down otherwise empty in there. I saw him looking over and I would glance over but we never met eyes. I was so uncomfortable to be there.. felt like a fish out of water, etc Well about an hour into being there, we finally did look at each other at the same time, and I finally smiled... and he said something to me within 5-10mins and afterwards we were non stop talking for a good 3 hours. He did share that I was so unapproachable but once I smiled, he felt safe to approach.. Trust me, these words have had me self reflecting... I know pay close attention to body language - not folding arms, practicing smiling, simple tilt of the head or hair movement. And this may sound weird, but I have taken time to watch other woman and see how they act
ScreamingTrees Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 - smile like you have a secret. Makes me wonder what you know that I don't..
Author 123sara Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 Thank you To clarify – I would like to be noticed as a sexual being. I am not asking about how to strike up a conversation – I can do that (more or less). I would like to know how to change the atmosphere and to create sexual tension. I don’t necessarily look to meet someone but I look to establish my sexual presence.
GorillaTheater Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 How are you at making friends in general? Do you have any close ones? Bear with me if this seems irrelevant.
kaylan Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Thank you everyone. First I want to add I want to do this for me, not necessarily to meet a man. Lets be real hun....this is very much about meeting men, even if youre doing it for yourself as well. Sex is what happens between two people, and youre here asking how you can be a sexual being. A person being sexual attracts a mate. Lets be honest.
hppr Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 (edited) Thank you To clarify – I would like to be noticed as a sexual being. I am not asking about how to strike up a conversation – I can do that (more or less). I would like to know how to change the atmosphere and to create sexual tension. I don’t necessarily look to meet someone but I look to establish my sexual presence. The most sexual women I know don't do it so much by dress (they're all physically attractive) but by behavior. They carry themselves like women, act like women, very friendly/flirty. Most importantly they act very forward and make it known that they like men. edit: reading your posts if anything you come across as a bit manly. Professional, serious, reserved. Maybe try dating guys who aren't professional or reserved? Guys who are laid back and know how to have a good time sort of thing. Edited August 15, 2013 by hppr
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