lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 im tring to do the whole no contact thing with my ex-girlfreind to let her know what its like to not hear from me and all. She has text messsaged me the past 3 out of 4 days and finaly she sent me a message saying "do you not want me to text you anymore? it seems like you dont want to talk to me" i callled her and smothed things over saying that she can text me or call me whenever she wants. Basically she kinda understood that i was being short and breif with the replies to her messages. i'm trying to do a month with NC but hse's getting the hint of it and doesnt seem to like it. what should i do? I dont want to lose her as a freind either. I love the girl to death and just want to try this NC thing to see if it works. She told me that she has been seeing someone so why would she get so upset that i am breif with her text replies??
Lollsabell Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 Ahhh, that's a doozy! Why exactly are you doing this "To show her how it feels"? has she done something similar to yourself to spark this off? Or do you simply feel that having no contact would be the best option in order to clear the air between you two? Perhaps you should explain to her that this loss of contact is not because you don't like her anymore -evidently, as you said you don't want to lose her as a friend. But you could maybe first ascertain as to why you are doing this, and then explain to her maybe you think it would be better to not speak for a while, but that it doesn't mean you think she's an awful person or anything. Sometimes talking helps, whilst not talking at all can too! Loll x
Weird Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 just tell her you want to not talk to her for a while to sort things out in your head.
Author lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 6, 2004 Author Posted November 6, 2004 well this morning when i woke up i got more text messages. thats 4 out of the past 5 mornings. This time she was asking where i went out and if i met any girls. Why would she want to know that?? Ex's dont usually want to know that stuff. And also, how is her text messaging me every morning different from her calling me everyday when we went out? she is obviously thinking about me every day latelty and we broke up 3 months ago. i have my companies x-mas party next sunday and she has been asking lots of questions about it like "what are you gonna wear and who still works there that i would know thats going?" She used to work with me and has been to the past 2 xmas parties and loves em cause they are at a hotel and theres open bar. She knows im getting a hotel room by myself (in case any other opportounities arise B) ). Should i ask her to go juts as freinds or would that be a bad move? She was all upset that her new job isnt having a x-mas party cause she loves to dress up.
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