How do I keep my spirits high while he rebounds or whatever he's doing...

[feelfreefloat]

I just wanted to know people's experience with rebounds and having to see their ex every day/what to tell yourself to stay strong.

 

One week after the BU he's with this girl from his hometown but she goes to a different school. He transferred to my college to be with me this year, so in 2 weeks, I will see him all the time. They went hiking a few days into the relationship together and have had sex numerous times (which is crazy since he has always been the type of person to not hook up and only have sex with someone he is in love with) and I'm pretty sure they did it while we were having rough patch. He JUST met this girl about 3 weeks ago, so they've only known each other for like...4 weeks. He transferred to my college to be with me this year, so in 2 weeks, I will see him all the time. Anyway, he told his friends that it sucks he has to see me every day....um okay you transferred to MY school to be with me...?

 

We ended pretty badly....I think. He called me and told me couldn't wait to be with me every day this year in college and he loved me. The week before he told me he was buying me a promise ring. Then as soon as he hung up he started ignoring me and haven't heard from him since. He told a mutual friend we needed space to figure things out individually. He said he couldn't talk to me because the pain and guilt wasn't worth it. Also, this happened during our first REAL rough patch. I was in a really bad place. He kind of was too, but partially because of me. But he never said anything. He just told my friend that he was afraid to talk to me because I might persuade him to get back with him and that wouldn't make him happy.

 

He's become very emotionally attached in this new thing. This girl is just entering college so I'm not sure how much she'll want to stay with someone she just met over the summer, who broke up with me in the most childish way possible after 2 years and who would be in ANOTHER LDR. He and have been dating for 2 years LONG DISTANCE TOO. And one month before we are going to be together every day, this happens. I made the mistake of texting him about something random on Sunday but he kind of just made fun of it to his friend. Sunday was also the day he hacked my Facebook account and saw how much I was still in love with him and was miserable but he said he "didn't miss he he doesn't think because he doesn't think about me". He is so happy with her. So extremely happy. Why would he say something like that?!

 

Its only been 3 weeks since the break up. I haven't spoken to him. Or rather, he still has not spoken to me. I digress.

 

How do I keep my spirits high and not fall into false hopes or whatnot? In 2.5 weeks I will see him again every single day (we go to a small music school). He already thinks I want him back so bad and that I'm "trying to sneak back into his life haha :)" and he feels a lot of control. Why would someone do this to someone? How can someone be so cruel? How do I hold my head up high in just 2 short little weeks. The thing that kills me the most is NOT that he's having sex with her, but that he told her he wanted to "cuddle under the stars ". Can he really just forget about me about 2 years, even knowing he has to see me everyday? Please help someone who's so inexperienced.

Edited August 14, 2013 by feelfreefloat

[reddragon588]

Time to move on. He's stringing you along. You deserve to be his first priority, not his fallback.

[blondie 12345]

hi I was in a 8 year relationship then we broke up him ignoring me the next day I was walking down street and seen him and his new gf together I swear to this day he was seeing her behind my back before we broke up he was saying how much he loved me and wanted a baby etc then goes to being nasty how un happy he was and how great she was n telling people loadsa nasty things about me.

the one thing I was so upset was how can after being together for 8 year with 1 kid jus end n him be with someone else n not care bout me it just goes to show what a complete waste of my life I had with him and what a jerk.

 

that was 6 years ago today him and his gf are still together they have 3 sons together and now I thank the day that girl took him from me because I have never been happier and we see each other every week for ours sons sake and now I look at him n cant believe what I saw in him.

 

in time you will feel exactly same because I was like you gutted upset sick devastated took me 3 years to fully get over him now.

 

I now have a wonderfull and the best boyfriend ever n if my ex wouldn't have left I would never met him so I thank him for that

xx;)