L3stat Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hi long story short i basically ruin my relationship with mt fiance lying and cheating. i force her into another mans arms, that's all me, we had a heart to heart last night and she basically told me "i love you" but " I'm not in love with you anymore" We live together and she has a 3yr old , we been together for 3yrs so after our heart to heart i told her that if she wants to be with him i have to leave this house... she told me to stay because she wants me in her life as a male girlfriend and don't want to go through the process of watching me walk out her life forever. So I'm all set to go all my stuff are in my car i woke up this morning really early because i just couldn't sleep and she comes downstairs and says " i want you to stay i stop talking to him" WTF does that mean? i ask her to work things out. i ask pleaded with her to give me a chance and she said her heart was gone... is this her way of giving me a chance without really telling me? Is this a way of telling me while keeping her respect and dignity? I would love some insight on this because i don't how to handle this situation i want to be with her and show her that i can and will make her happy.
JDPT Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 To be honest, I think she is gone and you may just be prolonging the inevitable. She did disclose that she stopped talking to the other guy, that may just mean that she is making room for herself as she has no clue what she wants in life. I say this because she wants you to stay yet she tells you that her heart is no longer there. She will like you to stay because of the many mixed emotions she is feeling now and she needs support from someone who she feels comfortable with and that someone is you. On the other hand, her heart is no longer there to work things out which is something fundamental for you guys to attempt to work things out. Out of these two most importantly you should analyze her emotional absence with regards to making this relationship work. She simply wants you to stick around because she is afraid of what's coming, which is a lot of emotional ups and downs and clearly no one wants to go through that. I think you have a clear concept as to what it is you need to do which is embark on your healing process and start moving forward with life.
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