halaluyaa Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hey pals, My ex dumped me 10 weeks ago and now i get my head together lately. I have lots of insecurities about myself. I made a list. Please take a look and give me some advices. Really need that. 1. I am a good looking guy but i am not much of a talker. How can i become more talkative? 2. I am mostly serious and tensed around people. How can i be more relaxed and chill and not give a ****? 3. My face muscles get tensed when socializing an that make me look serious. Wtf is that? These are my biggest problems. I am kind of a shy and kind guy but i am sick of heart breaks from my exs. So i really want to change. I want to hook up with lots of girls, sleep with gorgeous chicks, have one night stand, have threesome. Everything. I am willing to put every possible effort i can and stick to it like a religion. I will do whatever is necessary but have no idea where to start. Can you guys show me some guidance?
will1988 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 You need to work on your confidence and your social skills. Talk with people and learn that the worse case scenerio is a girl shoots you down, the best case scenerio is she goes home with you that very second... but you will never get anywhere if you don't make any effort. invest time in looking up how to be more confident.
Babolat Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hey pals, My ex dumped me 10 weeks ago and now i get my head together lately. I have lots of insecurities about myself. I made a list. Please take a look and give me some advices. Really need that. 1. I am a good looking guy but i am not much of a talker. How can i become more talkative? 2. I am mostly serious and tensed around people. How can i be more relaxed and chill and not give a ****? 3. My face muscles get tensed when socializing an that make me look serious. Wtf is that? These are my biggest problems. I am kind of a shy and kind guy but i am sick of heart breaks from my exs. So i really want to change. I want to hook up with lots of girls, sleep with gorgeous chicks, have one night stand, have threesome. Everything. I am willing to put every possible effort i can and stick to it like a religion. I will do whatever is necessary but have no idea where to start. Can you guys show me some guidance? You have signs of socially anxiety, it's called GAD, Google it. I have it sometimes too. Regarding #3, my bet is nobody sees this, you just think they do, you obsess over it, so it gets worse. And ask yourself, are you OK with who you are? Do you want to change, really? Not being the most social person IS OK; it does mean you will not be meeting a lot of folks. What if you change, and meet a gal who likes your change, then in the end you realize it's not you...then what? I am all for change and improvement, just try to stick to your core and be ok with who you are.
Author halaluyaa Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 You have signs of socially anxiety, it's called GAD, Google it. I have it sometimes too. Regarding #3, my bet is nobody sees this, you just think they do, you obsess over it, so it gets worse. And ask yourself, are you OK with who you are? Do you want to change, really? Not being the most social person IS OK; it does mean you will not be meeting a lot of folks. What if you change, and meet a gal who likes your change, then in the end you realize it's not you...then what? I am all for change and improvement, just try to stick to your core and be ok with who you are. Thanks for the replied guys. I think i am up for challanges and willing to do anything to have these women skills.
keepontruckin Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 You cannot really change whom you are at the core level. Accept this. Know this. Understand this. You cannot become someone you aren't. Some guys have the mad skillz (also known as being able to spew out a lot of bull***** that some women may like, but others not so much believe it or not). But! If you are happy and content with yourself as you are, love will find you. How will it find you, you ask? Well, it won't find you if you're sitting in front of the computer screen!
Author halaluyaa Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 You cannot really change whom you are at the core level. Accept this. Know this. Understand this. You cannot become someone you aren't. Some guys have the mad skillz (also known as being able to spew out a lot of bull***** that some women may like, but others not so much believe it or not). But! If you are happy and content with yourself as you are, love will find you. How will it find you, you ask? Well, it won't find you if you're sitting in front of the computer screen! What if i am not looking for love and just looking for casual sex, one night stand etc? If i am a very nice and kind guy it is hard to do these things. But if i am more of an ******* and dont give a damn, it is easier. Thats why i want to change.
Adele0908 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Work on loving yourself and accepting yourself. Read self help books.
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