Sheandme82 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hi All - I have a situation where my ex and I are currently still living together. One word...horrible! We are looking to break our lease but due to financial reasons this may take some time . The reason I am writing in is to get some advice on this situation. I wrote in previously about us possibly getting back together and there was a situation where she was dating another guy and me to decide what (or who) she wanted. Well she made her decision and it was him. At this point I've accepted it. However, my current issue is that we agreed that for now she wouldn't have him at our home. Keep in mind a little over 30 days ago we were dating. So a few nights ago she asked me if he could come over because his AC was broken in his house. I felt first she shouldn't have even asked me this because we already agreed. Second, I'm your ex that is trying to get over you, I've accepted that you have moved on and I'm coping with that, why make me uncomfortable in my own home by having him there. I must mention she hasn't told him I'm her ex, so he has no idea of our past. I feel disrespected. Her exact words was to "put yourself in his shoes", why should I? This is someone you've been dating for 3 months (1 month of it was also spent dating me), and his "needs" come before someone you spent the last 3 years with. He should have gone somewhere else or to a hotel room. Yes, this is your boyfriend now, but it's a sticky situation we are in and the only way I feel we can get through it amicably is to respect each other. I am looking now to get out of this lease as soon as I can and get her out of my life for good. She has said as recent as a week ago that she still loves me and she doesn't ever want to lose me as a friend, but what she did shows that my friendship means nothing to her. He has been there for the past two nights. To avoid any conflict, due to how angry I am right now, I've decided to stay with a friend for the rest of the week. I guess my reason for writing is to get some advice on if I am wrong for wanting her to respect the decision we made together to not have him at the house? I get that she has moved on and I'm not stopping her at all, I just want the same respect I would give her if the roles were reversed.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I can 100% relate to this as this is exactly what happened to me. Never had to deal with another guy coming over, but living with an ex right after a BU is pure, unfiltered HELL! Obviously, she doesn't care about your feelings or what is 'right'. My advice is to get out of there by any means possible. Back to parents. A buddy's couch. A new pad. A hotel. The bus station. Anywhere. Now!!! Best of luck, my friend. I know your pain, and it sucks!!
Author Sheandme82 Posted August 15, 2013 Author Posted August 15, 2013 Yea, definitely sucks! Looking for a place now.
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