Turpin2 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hi, I am writing this thread because a girl is messing with my mind. Let me explain: We used to date for a year almost and we had a very bad break. She dumped me without ever giving me a straight reason. We didn´t talk for a year and now she is contacting me. I am an artist and currently my career is getting very successful. She started to see pictures and reviews of me and my work in magazines, newspapers, blogs. She began to hear my songs on the radio and to notice that I was getting very successful. She offered to be my manager and I accepted because it seemed like a good choice (she is very responsible and hard working). Also I had hopes of getting back with her (I never stopped loving her and since breaking with her a year ago I have not had any serious relationship). Now that we are co-workers things are really strange. When she comes with me to give interviews on the radio, her eyes gleam with love and her voice turns so sweet towards me. On the other hand, she is dating another guy, a friend. She hasn´t mentioned it to me but I know it. When they are in front of me it seems like she is hiding the fact that she is with someone else. She acts like a personal assistant to me, making very big favors and sacrificing all of her time for me but still hangs around with this guy. She comes to my concerts and while I am onstage her eyes gleam to me but still every time brings his guy. And I don´t know what to do. Is she coming after me only for the money, the status? She is good at her job and I don´t wanna fire her but this confusion is tearing me down. What shall I do? Ladies, please help me. I want her back but I dont know how to approach. Thank you,
Kaiten Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Ah dammit im not a lady...But alas, you have summoned me: Kaiten, the warrior of Spinning Wisdom.. First lets start with you. You had a break up with a girl that deep down you really want to get back with. Your perception of events regarding the ex has been affected whether you know it or not. The perception distortion ranges from looking too into things all the way to totally f*cked. You are taking her behavior as "sweet", and that may very well be the case, but keep in mind your emotions are very active right now. It sound like you are still sane...so lets move on. Second part. Quick disclaimer -> dont get mad if a male comments on this thread. You should have informed us guys to mind our own business at the top instead of the bottom. But anyway, I digress. As I was saying. Second part... Second part. I am an artist myself. My girlfriend also dumped me and I wanted her back. I think you should read the last thread I started called "Ladies is it True?". What I have discovered is that it is best to focus on your career. WAIT! I don't mean that in the cliche "Oh just think about more important things right now" kind of way. Consider this: Your career as an artist could very well get you famous. When that happens you will be able to forge some very real and very awesome relationships. Following your passion will lead you to be around the people that you would dream of being around. Is this girl going to stick with you through the tough times or keep leaving and reappearing when everything's going great? Im not saying write her off as shallow. im saying think about the people and the relationships that you are about to cultivate. You may very well meet a girl that is better for you than she is. So that brings me to conclude. Love is always a risk. Even more so when you have been hurt once by the same person. There is always the possibility that things could work out great between you and your ex. But there is also the possibility that things could go worse than the first time. You bet all your chips once and lost. Youve spent some time saving up some more chips and now the question is: Are you going to play again? If you give me some more details, I shall appear again. *POOF* 1
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