Misfortune Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 It's been 3 months since D day when I found out my ex was cheating on me and left me for a girl. This was a little less than six months since we got married(Jan '13). It hurt like hell; worst pain I've ever felt in my entire life. I was upset that the "I'm gay" stuff occurred after we got married but putting that aside, I was still cheated on and left for someone else. I begged and all of that stuff I shouldn't do. I spent a week in the psych ward because I couldn't cope and it just raised abandonment issues that I never faced. Now after 2 months of NC and therapy, I can safely say that I'm ok. I haven't seen/heard from her in this time so I decided to test my "ok"ness. I looked at her Instagram and there were pics of her and her gf. She's happy, moving on and what not. I was a little meh about it at 1st but I picked myself up and I realized that I'm fine. It happens, it happened and I survived. Nothing I can do about it so, why stress? I'm actually surprised that I rebounded so fast after everything I went through in June. I found this quote from another poster and it helps keep me grounded: "She no longer lives with you. She no longer wants you. She will not return. And she no longer loves you."
supaflyz Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I'm glad that you are ok man. This is the first time I actually ever heard someone get married then telling their spouse " I'm gay ". That definitely sucks and weird at the same time.
Author Misfortune Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I'm glad that you are ok man. This is the first time I actually ever heard someone get married then telling their spouse " I'm gay ". That definitely sucks and weird at the same time. Tell me= I found out, confronted her, she said "my whole left I've thought that I'm gay" and left to go to her gf. 1st for me but happens all the time it seems. Nothing I can do about it. She hasn't apologized or shown any kind of remorse. It just is what it is.
Sugarkane Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 If she knows she's gay, why did she go ahead and marry you anyway? I don't think people need to lie about their sexuality these days.
Author Misfortune Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 If she knows she's gay, why did she go ahead and marry you anyway? I don't think people need to lie about their sexuality these days. Wonder that myself. No1 pressured her and she has a family that supports her through w/e. She's bi polar with ADHD(she's been off her meds since we met, said I make her feel like she doesn't need it. She also has addiction problems with alcohol and drugs. Was sexually abused has a child. She has a savior complex and craves attention. She's a substance abuse counsellor and her gf is/was her client. She feels she can help this girl be better and that she's her soulmate.) Her family doesn't really feel that this is what she honestly wants but you gotta let her be. They're use to her going through phases all the time. She gets hooked on something and then gives up after a while. She may have done the same with marriage, just something she wanted to experience and 1nce she got it, that's it. I told them that no matter what, she always be there daughter, niece, sister but my role in her life seems to be over. She's over me. 2 1/2 years together done.
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