lovesucks76 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 We broke up about 9 days ago. It has been terribly painful for me to be brutally honest My emotions have ranged from crying to being mad. I broke it off because I felt she wasn't into it. Actually I believe we love one another but she's scared and not willing to fight for us (some complicated stuff) so maybe she doesn't care as much as I do. I see her once or twice a week during a boot camp class we both take. It's a unique place and unique class so it's hard to replace. I thought she was going to try to go someplace else but she hasn't so we continue to see each other during class. We have had zero contact on the phone or text otherwise. It does make it harder but I can tell you that I'm OK so far but looking forward to moving on with my life and becoming indifferent to her, that's my ultimate goal. At the moment is still painful but not sure what to do. We say hi, hello, she asks me about my day and we go back to working out. Nothing more. I'm pleasant, she's pleasant and she cheers me on but that's it. After class we get in our cars without talking and drive off. I little sad but I will manage! Actually I have a new date this weekend. Do you guys think this bad I see her every week?
templeofmax Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 You have a date after 9 days??? I am sorry to say, but why? You won't replace her this fast and even if just to feel good, what if you have a good time regardless, but a second date doesn't happen? And even if it does, would it be fair to that new lady? As per your other question, skip a couple weeks of bootcamp sessions and try other exercise routines. If she broke up with you maybe she will wonder, or maybe not and you go back and see her again, but what other options can you have? I would even not go to the bootcamp sessions and find SOMETHING else entirely cause you will end up getting hurt every time you go to the boot camp session. Is the love gone?
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Unfortunately I will always love her. She's very special and a great soul but very damaged and I'm positive we could never make it work. I hurt for her but know better to ever wish her back. We care for each other but we're also very realistic about our future together...not possible and too complicated to explain here. So we remain friends and we will continue to move on with our own lives. We could write a book about our love....So you know I was very honest with my upcoming date and told her I just broke up and was looking to get to know her as friends before anything. The new girl is very cool and I like her and her confidence. We like to be with each other. So I was honest about it but also told her that it was 100% over which is true.
templeofmax Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Then, you were honest, so good for you man! Do take into consideration skipping bootcamp for now though cause its obvious you have strong feelings for this other girl.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I agree, I'm traveling for work this week and next week I have some family in town so I will probably not see her for another 12 days so hope that helps me. I never felt like that for anyone and it's tough especially when you know it's out of your control. I'm learning to let go...it;s best for both of us but it hurts badly. I know she's hurting too but we will be fine. I will go ahead with my date and actually I'm looking forward to getting to know someone knew. Last week I couldn't imagine leaving the house so I'm doing better, I guess. Thanks.
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