Makingadifference Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Hi, I'm new to forums but I wanted to share my experience see if others have and offer help as well at the end of the post. Ok, I was with someone for 9 years. Last month I found out I was being cheated on almost the entire time! I left immediately when I found out. Here's the short of it. It's been hard for me to find someone that I could actually believe truly loved me because of how people are about money. I am well off. If I accomplished that, I also had to find someone to be ok with me being gone for work a total of 3 mths a year spread out and that I couldn't discuss details about certain things because I'm a network and communications security advisor. Well, for 9 years I thought I had a perfect life but recently found out I was constantly being cheated on. I never invaded privacy of people close to me. When I found out, she and one of my closest friends made a plan to take alot from me. Other people I know knew about alot and instead of telling me, some of them did the same in a smaller capacity. I feel like I have lost trust in people. And don't want to carry this with me to future friendships or relationships, I'm devistated, lost my fiancé, friends, I'm sad and don't feel like myself at all and don't want to speak really with anyone right now because I don't know who else to trust. How have you overcome the feelings and not carried this with you after? Nine years is a long time. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. If you think this is happening like texts, call logs, pictures, computer or everything's deleted I can tell you how if you can message people here. I was great to everyone around me and couldn't imagine this happening if we were married, shared a house and had kids. Share
everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Sorry to hear.. I can't offer any advice but I want to say I'm sorry you are going through that. I can't even imagine. But don't lose trust in people because of one or two people. Sorry for the lame post. Good luck..
Author Makingadifference Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I appreciate it. Being positive is never lame. One day everything's normal atleast you think picking out wedding dress and planning. The next it's all gone and question so much. I certainly want a more simple life now. Thanks for the reply
everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I was cheated on in a three year relationship. I found out when she left her email open on her laptop and I sat down to look something up. I only had to read five messages or so to realize what she had been doing. It's one of the worst feelings out there. Four years later, it still makes me a little sick. Not that telling you this will help, but I share your pain. Take good care.
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