sn0rlax Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 (edited) So my ex gf and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. We are both 23 dated for 7 months, super happy and the reason we broke up is because she moved across country. We only lasted 1 week LDR haha because of me mostly. She moved to be independent and travel to be near the ocean and told me about a week after 2 weeks NC that she never loved me otherwise she never would've left, which made sense. I loved her a lot and said it often and kinda became a pushover towards the end. She was all over me at first. All this was over the phone since I started dating a new girl about a week after the breakup to help get over her since she was my "first" saved it for someone I thought was worth it. I asked why she brokeup and she said there was no reason, I just wasn't the one and she couldn't see a future with me. I still of course have feelings for her but stopped showing her all that once she told me she never loved me. It really hurt lol. Anyways I decided since she broke up with me over the phone and explained it over the phone, I needed to see her to know it was finally over and asked to SKYPE. We did and of course attraction came back in like 5 mins. She acted at first like I wasn't even on the screen and I just had a big fat smile on the whole time. Just because I thought it was super awkward. Eventually we talked about normal things made her laugh a lot and she commented on my beard and how good I was looking and I said the same to her. She asked a lot about the girl I was dating since I asked her if we were done on the phone earlier to see if we were done for good. One thing led to another on SKYPE and I asked her what would happen if I was there. It took some time but she said very enthusiastically with detail what would happen. I asked her to take off her shirt and she did suprisingly showing off throughout the night from then on to tease me haha, I know I'm a pervert. Basically we flirted a lot for like 3 hours and it went really well. Just not sure what to get from all this, she still plans on living there. I can't move for my last year of college. She broke up with me saying she wanted to meet new guys since shes only dated for a year. I know this girl has no idea what she wants, but I can't just forget about her. Anyones opinion helps especially girls Edited August 13, 2013 by sn0rlax extra info
Author sn0rlax Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 nobody got any advice really i know some of you guys read it and its not nearly as long as half of these
Mariposa10 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 She moved to a different place you can't move there and even if you could, I don't think she's asked you move there. You should just move on... How did you feel when you started dating?? Go out with your friends and meet new people. I don't see a future here... and you know that... Of course you can't forget her yet because this is very recent... just give it time, it's not like you guys were a couple for years. Good luck!
Echo000 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 you got to move on..she said she NEVER loved you. OUCH. you cant go back after that. move on. one day at a time.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Stop Skypeing with her for one. Second stop talking to her. Contact with her isn't going to do anything except drive you crazy.
HTS1977 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 yah ouch that Never loved you part has to hurt, and Im sorry you had to experience that. She is probably just lashing out however, people say things they don't mean when they are emotional. Ex: my ex of 2 weeks we were together for 4 years and have a daughter told me yesterday that we are done, she has moved on and is not in love with me anymore but I still hold a special spot in her heart, and that I need to take care of myself and we are not getting back together. But.....I still am trying to get her back LOL... give it time, space...and try not to contact her as hard as it is..no one likes to be forced to talk to someone and it will push them away its what I am trying to do
keithkat Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I understand that there might still be something for your relationship. Since you're already away from each other, see how things will unfold one day at a time. Get on with your life and think for yourself.
Author sn0rlax Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Yea she said that and I mean she could've meant it for all I know. I don't know but I know if I was even somewhere close to her it would'nt even be a problem. I'll take your guys' advice and try to leave it alone. Girls suck lol
Author sn0rlax Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I mean when we started dating I wasn't really attracted to her except her personality. I like good girls and was thinking of breaking it off constantly. Week after week I grew more attached to her and after 4 months fell in love with her and she said the same. Not sure what happen, but anyways after the breakup I don't even want to start with someone new cuz that would be the easy thing. Working it out is what I thought love always was but who knows anymore
jesse93 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I mean when we started dating I wasn't really attracted to her except her personality. I like good girls and was thinking of breaking it off constantly. Week after week I grew more attached to her and after 4 months fell in love with her and she said the same. Not sure what happen, but anyways after the breakup I don't even want to start with someone new cuz that would be the easy thing. Working it out is what I thought love always was but who knows anymore Sometimes there is nothing you can work out though, you can try as hard as you wish and hope she will come back to your arms but sometimes it just isn't meant to be and in your situation it honestly doesn't seem like its meant to be, I would just work on yourself and stop worrying about her, she teased you because she is comfortable with you and she still had feelings for you and was obviously still attracted too you I'm sure but I don't think that really meant anything in the end, find someone new go off on your own man. She isn't worth the time especially if she said she never loved you.. That should be your motivation to let her go.
Author sn0rlax Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Yea that was pretty messed up to say that. She sent me some dirty pics last night and I couldn't help but be sexual. If thats all it is though and she's across country it couldn't ever work out. Thanks guys
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