SugarLips72 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 (edited) Hello. I am glad I found these forums. I am a 40 year old divorced mom with 2 kids and I have been ready to date again since last year but have yet to meet a guy that totally takes my breath away. I find something wrong with every guy I date. I met a guy on a dating website. He is good looking, divorced after a very brief marriage, no kids. Good job, educated. Good looking but something about him bothers me and I just cannot get past it. I like him until he starts talking. He has some feminine mannerisms I have very rarely seen on a straight guy. The way he talks, his voice (which is masculine but not super deep) he sounds like he is 20 on the phone but he is 42. He scoffs (rolls his eyes and shakes his head fast..usually seen on drama queens and gay guys) and is a little animated and overall kind of uses the tone and speaking mannerisms a gay guy would use. I am already wondering if his sexuality is going to be questioned by my friends and family and I'm not in the mood to defend it. We have not slept together yet. He seems really into me, wants to see me all the time, sends me these sweet texts. I am pretty sure he is straight but I'm telling you with the way he talks some people might think otherwise. Is he normal? I mean what is normal anymore? I am just not sure I can handle it. Is this a big deal? Edited August 13, 2013 by SugarLips72
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 So you're going to get rid of him because you're afraid of what friends and family will think? You can't think for yourself? Please let this man go so he can find someone who won't nitpick at things that don't matter. C'mon OP. 40 years old and you're worried about what others think?
Author SugarLips72 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 I posted on here for an opinion not to be bashed. There is nothing mean spirited in my post. I am trying to figure out of this is a big deal if this would be a deal breaker for other women or what? Am I making a deal out of nothing? I do like him yes and he has lovely eyes. But the fem mannerisms are a little odd for me.
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I posted on here for an opinion not to be bashed. There is nothing mean spirited in my post. I am trying to figure out of this is a big deal if this would be a deal breaker for other women or what? Am I making a deal out of nothing? I do like him yes and he has lovely eyes. But the fem mannerisms are a little odd for me. Just because its not what you want to hear doesn't make it a bash. Please leave out the false accusations. You're 40 years old. You should be past what friends and family think.
Author SugarLips72 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 This guy told me he had no fashion sense, and asked if I could help him look stylish. I told him when in doubt just wear khakis and a polo. It fits in almost anywhere and he's followed my advice. I have not seen his house since he normally drives to seem. But I do want my friends and family to like him and I am going to be bothered if I have to defend is sexuality. This guy is also handy around the house so he is not quite as fem as your guy friend but the mannerisms still are a little off. Thank you for your insight.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Some guys are just effeminate-yes even straight ones. If you want more of a manly type, then maybe hes not for you?...(shrug)... TFY
forgetmenot75 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Hello. I am glad I found these forums. I am a 40 year old divorced mom with 2 kids and I have been ready to date again since last year but have yet to meet a guy that totally takes my breath away. I find something wrong with every guy I date. I met a guy on a dating website. He is good looking, divorced after a very brief marriage, no kids. Good job, educated. Good looking but something about him bothers me and I just cannot get past it. I like him until he starts talking. He has some feminine mannerisms I have very rarely seen on a straight guy. The way he talks, his voice (which is masculine but not super deep) he sounds like he is 20 on the phone but he is 42. He scoffs (rolls his eyes and shakes his head fast..usually seen on drama queens and gay guys) and is a little animated and overall kind of uses the tone and speaking mannerisms a gay guy would use. I am already wondering if his sexuality is going to be questioned by my friends and family and I'm not in the mood to defend it. We have not slept together yet. He seems really into me, wants to see me all the time, sends me these sweet texts. I am pretty sure he is straight but I'm telling you with the way he talks some people might think otherwise. Is he normal? I mean what is normal anymore? I am just not sure I can handle it. Is this a big deal? Sugarlips: I was reading your message and had a deja vu. I was seeing a guy (now 9 weeks no contact) that was EXACTLY as you described your guy. Look for similarities: -He sounded extremely mannered on the phone. -He rolled his eyes -He was very sleek, extremely I'd say BUT also: -He was in several homo dating sites (I discovered this googling her nick name, the dumb ass used the same for all the dating sites) -He proposed me to have a threesome with him and another guy, he was very much into it (not him and two women) - He had some awkward behaviors in bed (although he was extremely good overall ) I just don't know what to think or to tell you. My advice will be to sleep with him a couple times and decide for yourself. Women have this sixth sense, and I understand you're worried. I wouldn't be so if it's only his voice.
forgetmenot75 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Oh, one more thing: his house was always impeccable, he had this air freshener everywhere (bathroom, living...) I once suggest him if he ever was with another man, he just freaked out
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