SJC2008 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I was messaging a woman online and things were moving forward until she deal broke me over something. She handled it well and as did I and we wished eachother luck and she ended her well wishes with "You're so good looking". Shes cute, I'm not totally attracted to her but there was enough there for me to see what happens. Anyway when she said this it got me thinking. It seems like I've never been strongly attracted to a woman who thinks I'm very good looking. I'm either minimally attracted to them or not at all. As the dating game goes I assume that the women I'm strongly attracted to don't feel the same lol. Is mutal attraction hard to find? Is one partner always going to be attracted more than the other? 1
hppr Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I was messaging a woman online and things were moving forward until she deal broke me over something. She handled it well and as did I and we wished eachother luck and she ended her well wishes with "You're so good looking". Shes cute, I'm not totally attracted to her but there was enough there for me to see what happens. Anyway when she said this it got me thinking. It seems like I've never been strongly attracted to a woman who thinks I'm very good looking. I'm either minimally attracted to them or not at all. As the dating game goes I assume that the women I'm strongly attracted to don't feel the same lol. Is mutal attraction hard to find? Is one partner always going to be attracted more than the other? Depends on what you are looking for. Lots of times people are attracted to those who have qualities that they wished they had in which case the attraction part is an uphill climb for one party. What did she dealbreak over? Job, height, fuzzy eyebrows? I've heard it all online believe me.
Phantom888 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Frankly I don't think it's all that common. One party always seems to be more attracted to the other party. But you know you have found the perfect partner when you are both equally attracted to each other. Yeah, I didn't think would happen, but it did to me! My woman found me on Match, and commented on my smile. I looked at her profile and was smitten by her deep blue eyes! When we met for the 1st time, we complimented each other on both interior and exterior beauty. I mean, she is so beautiful I still can't believe she picked me. The funny thing is, she feels exactly the same about me! 1
MrCastle Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Mutual attraction is up there with the lochness monster and big foot. Like George Costanza said -- "When you want them they don't want you, and when they want you, you don't want them." 2
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 You can never truly know this. I know that the men I have been with ACTED and SPOKE as if I was the most beautiful woman on earth... Just as I spoke about how they were the hottest guy alive. Who knows who is attracted to the other more, more importantly... what does it matter?
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I was messaging a woman online and things were moving forward until she deal broke me over something. She handled it well and as did I and we wished eachother luck and she ended her well wishes with "You're so good looking". Shes cute, I'm not totally attracted to her but there was enough there for me to see what happens. Anyway when she said this it got me thinking. It seems like I've never been strongly attracted to a woman who thinks I'm very good looking. I'm either minimally attracted to them or not at all. As the dating game goes I assume that the women I'm strongly attracted to don't feel the same lol. Is mutal attraction hard to find? Is one partner always going to be attracted more than the other? It's not only hard to find, it's impossible to find for me 3
GoodOnPaper Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Is mutal attraction hard to find? Is one partner always going to be attracted more than the other? Yes and yes. Maybe it's possible if both partners in the couple are very experienced and/or very "successful" in attracting people for dating, but for us regular or struggling people, I think it's a longshot. When I was single, I was always the one who was more attracted and I was always the one who was rejected or dumped. Yet, when my wife and I met, she was the one who was more into me. There are pros and cons to both situations. When you are more attracted, you are validated and much more motivated to invest in the relationship but you always have to keep an eye out to see if she is looking for greener pastures. When your partner is more attracted, you worry less about her leaving but because there is less validation, it's harder to keep your own past issues in the past.
KatZee Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 It's not only hard to find, it's impossible to find for me Likewise! Mutual attraction in my life is pretty non-existent. The guy I'm "talking" to right now... I'd say we're both mutually attracted but of COURSE he's a casual dater due to his insane work schedule. If it's not one thing, it's something else. I can never win!
Emilia Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Mutual attraction isn't rare for me at all. With the right person however is a different story, ie with someone where we see mutual LTR potential. 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Mutual attraction is up there with the lochness monster and big foot. Like George Costanza said -- "When you want them they don't want you, and when they want you, you don't want them." As someone who thinks Bigfoot might be real, I have to vehemently disagree here. In all seriousness though, I agree with this. I don't think I've ever been attracted visually to someone who returned those sentiments. 1
StanMusial Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I was messaging a woman online and things were moving forward until she deal broke me over something. She handled it well and as did I and we wished eachother luck and she ended her well wishes with "You're so good looking". Shes cute, I'm not totally attracted to her but there was enough there for me to see what happens. Anyway when she said this it got me thinking. It seems like I've never been strongly attracted to a woman who thinks I'm very good looking. I'm either minimally attracted to them or not at all. As the dating game goes I assume that the women I'm strongly attracted to don't feel the same lol. Is mutal attraction hard to find? Is one partner always going to be attracted more than the other? Does "mutual attraction" have to be "equal attraction"? How would that even be possible to know, with someone you have never even met?
Author SJC2008 Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Does "mutual attraction" have to be "equal attraction"? How would that even be possible to know, with someone you have never even met? It doesn't have to be 100% equal but I'd sure the gap to be closer than her thinking I'm Adonis and I'm just meh. I was very attracted to the last woman I dated and she said I was handome (via text) so that may have been the closest for me.
RogerWallace111 Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Relatively easy to find mutual/equal physical attraction but difficult to find sustained mutual/equal attraction to all aspects of eachother.
jphcbpa Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Very rare, especially when both people are picky and that is a good thing. When you find it, treasure it and be grateful. A good thing is hard to find.
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