chrisnicholson Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Hope someone can help me with this dilemma... ... had what I thought was a pretty unsuccessful first date. I was a little unsure of myself, which happens rarely, as I had interpreted her body language as being negative, and her interest as pretty low (though I found her quite attractive). The surprising part came when I drove her home. As I was parked outside of her house she leaned in to kiss me (not a make-out, but a kiss on the lips nonetheless) and said we should do this again. This was followed-up with a text from her the next morning saying she had a "really fun time last night". I responded a few hours with an in-joke and suggested she "keep this weekend free". But I never made a concrete plan. She did NOT respond to my text, which I found odd. Unfortunately, due to work commitments, I had to travel, and it's been two weeks since our date, was wondering if her interest level seems high to the members on this board, and if I should still pursue her regardless of the time which has lapsed. We have not been in contact.
Lansing Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Why haven't you been in contact??? You told her "keep this weekend free" and you didn't even contact her? Don't ever tell a girl "keep your weekend free". That sounds like you are trying to control her, hang out with her all weekend, or whatever. You could have said "yes, I would like that, how about Friday night" or whatever. Doesn't hurt to try contacting her but if you haven't been in touch with her after saying "keep your weekend free" don't be surprised if she doesn't respond.
BradJacobs Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Hope someone can help me with this dilemma... ... had what I thought was a pretty unsuccessful first date. I was a little unsure of myself, which happens rarely, as I had interpreted her body language as being negative, and her interest as pretty low (though I found her quite attractive). The surprising part came when I drove her home. As I was parked outside of her house she leaned in to kiss me (not a make-out, but a kiss on the lips nonetheless) and said we should do this again. This was followed-up with a text from her the next morning saying she had a "really fun time last night". I responded a few hours with an in-joke and suggested she "keep this weekend free". But I never made a concrete plan. She did NOT respond to my text, which I found odd. Unfortunately, due to work commitments, I had to travel, and it's been two weeks since our date, was wondering if her interest level seems high to the members on this board, and if I should still pursue her regardless of the time which has lapsed. We have not been in contact. Put yourself in your date's shoes. You leaned in to kiss him after he appeared a bit awkward. You were the first to text him and then he responded with keep your weekend open. It's been two weeks since you last heard from him. How does that come off? 1
everyusernameisinuse Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Edit: I didn't read the whole thing sorry. Umm, you disrespected her time and her emotions in my opinion by telling her to keep her weekend free. I would be honest and try again (can't hurt) but this ones probably gone.
ITw Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 You let 2 weeks go by after telling her to keep her weekend free? Bad move but it's not necessarily over. Contact her ASAP, tell her you've been thinking about her during those 2 weeks and would really like to see her again this weekend or whenever, and go from there. Just have a good reason ready why you didn't contact her earlier if you need one. If it works, make concrete plans this time.
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