may_girl Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 We broke up in January. Today I have seen him on a photo for the first time since then, standing next to his girlfriend; the girl he left me for. Up until today I didn't know what she looked like. I don't mean to brag, but he has massively downgraded which has made me feel very smug. I visualized her as being completely gorgeous and girly but she really isn't. Best of all, he looks awful. Much worse than he did as I remember him. Here I am, almost 7 months on, feeling nothing but thoughts of smugness and relief. Thank god. 7
OverThinker72 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I want to get to the stage where you are. I saw a pic of him and his new gf a week after we broke up. It's been a month now since No Contact but the pic I saw has popped into my head a few times today. It hurts. I don't want him back but just knowing that he has forgotten me so easily makes me angry. I so want to be at the stage where I can just smile and be happy for him. Most days I don't care but I guess today is a bad day. Well done you though I know I'll get there eventually x
Author may_girl Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 (edited) Oh don't get me wrong, I certainly am not smiling and being happy for him! The part where I have cared about reaching that stage has passed. I think I've come to accept I never will feel those caring, happy emotions for him anymore after how we broke up. I'm aiming more towards indifference. I am 90 days No Contact. It gets easier, especially as time goes on and you think about them less and less. And don't worry, they haven't forgot you. When our ex's are going through the honeymoon stage, it is a b**** for us and undoubtedly makes us weak; heck, it was the worst point for me. I thought I was replaced and forgotten about. But I do know he has been comparing her to me since. The novelty wears off and sometimes things just aren't the same anymore. Stay strong and NC and one day you just won't care anymore. I promise. Edited August 13, 2013 by may_girl 3
crederer Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 My ex seems to get better looking every time I see her. Luckily she is still single but I'm sure she's getting plenty of attention as she always has. 1
chinacat sunflower Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I recently saw a picture of my ex and his new girlfriend. He looks great, smile looks little fake and his new girl is gorgeous. She's so perfect for him, I can't believe she's real. I'm pretty sure he has definitely forgotten about me. May I ask, how do you know he is comparing the two of you? 1
Newbie37 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I saw a pic of my ex and his new gf about 6 weeks ago, I had a feeling he was with someone and seeing them together hit me like a sack of spuds, however I do feel it also helped me to move on and accept he was not coming back, up until this I had been hoping etc, he has also downgraded which has made me feel beta and he looked awkward in the pic!!! He text last week saying he was not sure if he is that into her which made me feel a bit smug and to which I never replied!!! 4
Author may_girl Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 I recently saw a picture of my ex and his new girlfriend. He looks great, smile looks little fake and his new girl is gorgeous. She's so perfect for him, I can't believe she's real. I'm pretty sure he has definitely forgotten about me. May I ask, how do you know he is comparing the two of you? I know he is comparing because his family, who have recently got in contact with me about a few personal things, have mentioned how he's asked about me and I know he has been looking on my facebook page (he knows of things he would only know if he had looked on there). It just shows that they don't forget about you, EVEN IF things appear to be great for them on the outside. Maintain your dignity and you'll eventually be in a better place than them. If my ex were to contact me I would ignore him, not because I completely don't care but because I don't have any interest anymore. 1
Virgil876 Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I recently saw a picture of my ex and his new girlfriend. He looks great, smile looks little fake and his new girl is gorgeous. She's so perfect for him, I can't believe she's real. I'm pretty sure he has definitely forgotten about me. Awww that sounds so sad in the end but you sound content and strong.
iouaname Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I feel like I'm in a better place than I have been since we broke up (which was in December), but I think that seeing a picture of him with a new girlfriend would bring me right back to square one, so I have to avoid even being able to see it. 1
OzHeartache Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 I feel like I'm in a better place than I have been since we broke up (which was in December), but I think that seeing a picture of him with a new girlfriend would bring me right back to square one, so I have to avoid even being able to see it. Yep agree, not worth the risk 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 15, 2013 Posted August 15, 2013 Yep agree, not worth the risk I'm almost a year post BU, and for the most part, I'm better now. I'm close to being in another relationship again (HUGE upgrade) and getting my life back...so Im here to say, DO NOT go try and actively attempt to find what your ex is doing. It is NEVER good trust me. I saw a picture of my ex making out (gross) on a facebook pic with her new BF and I felt back into the pit. I'm out of it again, but DONT dont it. Ignorance is bliss. That is probably the best statement I've ever heard that ACTUALLY makes sense. People like May_Girl are inspirations. Follow their lead. Get over it, move forward, and one day if you just happen to see it, you will be over it. 2
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