Lilly_pad Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Hi Everyone I'm new here and hopefully it all goes ok... Anyway I'll cut to the chase, I really need advice. I have not dated since 2008. And even then I've only gone out with two guys one serious one not so serious... But clearly I've been out of the game, and I haven't liked anyone at all until now. There's this guy that works at my local pharmacy, I've seen him around for years, always thought he was cute, but I've developed a crush overtime, and now i really really like him. Spoken to him a few times, but mainly to help me with my pharmaceutical needs... He's seen me at my sickest (yikes!)... He seems shy and professional, and I am normally a friendly chatty person who can talk to strangers but my social skills seem to freeze and I am rendered incapable of making small talk when I'm around him. I've had a few chances but then I get very shy and just end up asking him for what I need at the store instead. Don't know what to do.. I really like him... I was hoping for some advice Oh and I don't know if he likes me as I have seen no signs of it... He has caught me a couple of times looking at him from afar... So embarrassing!
Els Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 This would probably be one of the worst situations to 'take a chance' for - medical professionals aren't allowed to date their patients, at all. He'd be on the line for pretty horrible disciplinary action if he did anything, so even IF he likes you, chances are nothing will happen. You'd have much better luck with a hot waiter.
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 This would probably be one of the worst situations to 'take a chance' for - medical professionals aren't allowed to date their patients, at all. He'd be on the line for pretty horrible disciplinary action if he did anything, so even IF he likes you, chances are nothing will happen. You'd have much better luck with a hot waiter. She's not a patient. It's simply a pharmacy and she doesn't work for or with him. Make a move OP. It's always better to know then wonder what if. 1
Els Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 (edited) She's not a patient. It's simply a pharmacy and she doesn't work for or with him. Make a move OP. It's always better to know then wonder what if. Pharmacists keep records of the patients they dispense to. There's always a possibility of, ahem, love so unrelenting that they would take the risk, but the chance is about as high as a doctor dating his patient - which is close to nil. If the OP is as shy as she says she is, she would have much better luck with someone else. Edited August 14, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
iKING Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Just out of curiosity, I looked up the general rules regarding pharmacist/client relationships, and although most I saw state that they wouldn't do it because they view it as unethical, none have said they weren't allowed to. I think that's due in part to there being not being a traditional doctor/patient relationship being formed, just a pharmacist/patient.
Els Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I think the rules vary according to location. But yes, as you've said, it's generally considered unethical, and even if there was no explicit ban on relationships per se, there are usually other rules that could make dating a patient very messy potentially. So most avoid it. 1
iKING Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I think the premise is cute, maybe try flirting with him a bit next time you go, and if you get a lot of little smiles, (and not ahaha, that's funny smiles, I mean like blushy smiles), then your odds of him being interested in you are decent. The tricky part to this is that if he isn't interested, he's still your pharmacist, so that could make that a bit weird. I say test the waters a bit first.
Author Lilly_pad Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Um we'll I guess he's not my personal pharmacist, like there's a few different ones in that shop (its like a pharmacy/shop with cosmetic etc... anyone heard of priceline? its like that) so it's whoever serves you at the time, but yes I guess they would have access to my name and address at the least. I have gone in there, with him helping me out etc and I have given him my sweetest smile and he smiles back it maybe he is just being polite. I mean if he was interested he would make small talk too right? But then again it's his place of work so it's really awkward, but then the other people that work there do it... I've had conversations with them (mainly sales assistants). I mean I've been in there at my sickest... Most unattractive looks... So that doesn't help me... And when I read books like "he's just not that into you" well it just deflates any hope I have. I feel so clueless coz I haven't been, dated, barely talked to a guy for years and years. Part of me wants to strike up a conversation with him... But then what do I say? And part of me is really scared and thinking I should just move on from this one.
Author Lilly_pad Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Oh and how does one flirt? Like what do you say? He's caught me a few times when I'm there looking at him but I quickly avert my eyes, never enough to see his reaction... I feel so silly
Author Lilly_pad Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Oh and what do guys 'really' think if the girl makes the first move? Strikes up the first conversation? Particularly if they weren't really interested in that girl in the first place?
iKING Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I welcome a conversation from a girl, believe it or not, guys like attention too. I still say you go for it. Make some small talk, smile a lot, look in his eyes, the subtle stuff. Do girly things, I don't know what that implies for you, but do that. Twirling the hair, etc. Talk to him like he's your friend, don't worry so much about what you'll say, when two people like each other, the feelings tend to override the words. 1
Author Lilly_pad Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I guess I will try to make small talk and see how he reacts... I just need to find the courage to do this... Oh and a reason to go to Priceline Thanks! 1
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