Protege Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Last weekend I was at a resort with some friends celebrating a bachelor party. After drinking and being on the water all day we decided to have dinner at the restaurant. One of the girls that was waiting on us was very cute, friendly, and sincere in everything she did. I know that's what a waitress should do, but she wasn't even out waitress but was helping out ours. I was a but drunk and began to flirt, and she smiled nicely and was very polite. I overheard her congratulate my friend on his upcoming wedding, and he responded as though he wasn't excited, which I could tell through her off by her response that was something like " you should be happy, that's my dream." I immediately and unintentionally let out an "awe" That was my dream too and and it sounded so sweet. I wanted to talk to her but she was moving around so quickly I didn't get much of a chance. I didn't see her again at dinner. Later on before we went out, she brought the extra cot that I needed. All I said was thank you. I didn't want to say anything I'd regret being drunk, and she said your welcome and left. I couldn't get her out of my mind. Her smile, her eyes. I haven't seen anyone look at me like that before. I wasn't sure if it was the alcohol or not and tried to ignore the feeling. After we got to the club I really began regretting being so shy. I knew it was out of respect though. ( I have been single for over 5 years other than a few nights I'm not too proud of. Not because I'm ugly or want to be, but because my last relationship was wrong from the start and I promised myself I'd never be in a relationship out of convenience or lonliness again, I want to find someone I can truly love and who would be a good match. Someone sweet and kind, and who would be a good companion. I want to give all of my heart to the right girl.) The next morning when I woke up sober and still thinking about her I knew I'd regret it if I didn't at least try to pursue her. I went to the restaurant and it was closed. I found a cleaning lady and wrote a thank you note and my phone number on it. I realized she may not call or even remember me since she was the one who made the impression on me, no vice versa. So the next morning I sent her roses with another thank you note saying that I hope the flowers brightened her day the way she had mine. She sent me a text saying thank you later that night. We texted for the next 4 days, mostly me telling her about myself and a picture of myself. She remembered me. The thing is I ran out of things to text her and wanted to talk. She never responded to that question directly, and only with short simple texts. I began to wonder if I am coming on too strong. So I didn't text her for 2 days. She hasn't texted me. I tried to call her tonight. She didn't answer. I left a message. Now I feel like since I was too shy or scared or drunk or whatever to try to talk to her in person that I should go see her. It's only an hour away. But should I ask her permission? Should I give her time to get back to me? If I really want her, and I do, would I be wrong or seem clingy or desperate if I continue to text, call, or show up at her work? I'm willing to try and fail for truelove, I feel it in my heart. There is no way she will ever know if I just quit now. I don't know what I should do. The thoughts I have are sincere and I want to show her, but I don't want to turn her off. PLEASE HELP
Axee Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Yes, you are coming on too strong... Dont be pushy..and dont be anxious that you are missing out "THE ONE".. believe me you arent... Kind eyes and sweet talk are not indications of true love ..you need to know a girl much better.. Go over there after a fortnight ..
Lansing Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Creepy dude... Do. It go and see her without arranging a date/coffee/whatever. Stop texting her so much. If you called and left a message and she didn't call back she isn't interested in you romantically. You are putting this girl on a pedestal and making up a lot of thinks in your head.
Lansing Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 This has tobea troll post. Posted multiple times in different forums here.
lovesick1 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 (edited) She isn't interested man. If she was she'd respond with longer texts and would return your calls, she doesn't wanna talk to you. Let this one go before you make more a fool of yourself and can never go back to the restaurant.. I am a server as well. What you described is what we do. We act 100% happy like we love every guest then half the time we go in the back and wail on them jokingly with other servers. I wanted so bad to rip on a guy last night for asking me what linguini was. Wanted to look at him and go, srs bra? Edited August 13, 2013 by lovesick1
lavenderlove Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Nobody can really say what she may be thinking. I think you should give it one more try and invite her on a date via text. Not dinner...just coffee keep it relaxed She might say yes or might say no, but you know you would have tried. But don't go near her workplace.
Author Protege Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 I really went a little crazy didn't I. I'm done contacting her. Thanks for verifying what I already was thinking. I was way over the top, trying too hard, and a risk of becoming a stalker. Better to stop now and lick my wounds and move on. Good learning experience though. I see my mistakes plain as day now. Thanks for the replies to all of you. If by chance she does ever contact me again, I'll see if she wants to meetup for a coffee or something simple and keep it light. Not getting my hopes up anymore. Back to reality to me, with no girls running through my head making me a madman. I'm obviously not ready for anything serious.
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