Dankoopa Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 its been a few months have a new girlfriend but something bothers me. My first girlfriend whom I've been going out in highschool told me about an affair she had during the first two years of our relationship. We've went out for 4 years from beginning to end of highschool. I thought she was the one though we'd never had sex because she would always feel sad or not in the mood but now I know why. We tried to make it work but the thought of her and him together in the same bed... it just makes me angry anyway I dumped her never looked back. Now I've got a new Girlfriend and I was wondering did I make the right choice in dumping her?
JDPT Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Being cheating on is a very touchy subject. I personally as far as I'm concerned haven't been cheated on but I can only imagine the excruciating pain and agony one must feel upon discovering what occurred. Some people can work through it some just cannot. I'm of the opinion that if someone can internalize the concept of "cheating" and execute without any remorse or thought of ramifications then that person is really not suitable for you. You want someone with morals and values who can actually stand up for them and be his/her own person without having to worry about, what is he/she doing? she is he/she with? did they cheat on me? that's clearly no way to live. And to answer your question, I personally believe that you did make the right decision. Specially if she didn't want to have sex with you but clearly was giving it to someone else. She wasn't honest with you and dragged you along for her ride. Don't dwell on whether you did or didn't make the right decision, things unfolded the way they did for a reason. Later on down the line you will see at as a learning experience. 1
keithkat Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 You have stated strong reasons to dump her; I haven't read anything that you were trying to hold on but your years together which was broken by unfaithfulness. I don't know what the girl is trying to do to make things work for the both of you. It may have been the right choice for you.
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