Joaquin Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 And during that one date, if she didn't really show interest in me, that tells me all that I need to know, doesn't it? Especially if I happens to be the one who asked her out since that is what a "man" should do, apparently...... Mind you, I got burned myself like that. A female showing interest in me on the outside when there was none on the inside and I lost out on 5 months and a few hundred bucks down the drain. Sure, it wasn't a lot to lose but still there was a better way to make use of that than on a relationship that was destined to fail. But u liked her. It mustve been worth trying, even if it wasn't reciprocated after x months. As I see it, this girl has been, at worst, neutral to op, but he likes her, so why not try.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 You shouldn't have text her if you were going to call. Now you're being forced to chase her :-p. In your defence, I would reply to a text from a guy im interested in. She hasn't not replied to anything yet except for my last text a few hours ago. But she's a teacher so its understandable. My plan is to text her tonight and ask if she's available for a phone call. If she doesn't respond o that, I'm moving on. But if I have the chance to talk to her on the phone, I think I can patch this up. Most likely everything is screwed though. . I'll give an update later for those who care.
Joaquin Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 She hasn't not replied to anything yet except for my last text a few hours ago. But she's a teacher so its understandable. My plan is to text her tonight and ask if she's available for a phone call. If she doesn't respond o that, I'm moving on. But if I have the chance to talk to her on the phone, I think I can patch this up. Most likely everything is screwed though. . I'll give an update later for those who care. Don't ask for permission to call. She may be a teacher but yr not in class bro. 1
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 And during that one date, if she didn't really show interest in me, that tells me all that I need to know, doesn't it? Especially if I happens to be the one who asked her out since that is what a "man" should do, apparently...... Mind you, I got burned myself like that. A female showing interest in me on the outside when there was none on the inside and I lost out on 5 months and a few hundred bucks down the drain. Sure, it wasn't a lot to lose but still there was a better way to make use of that than on a relationship that was destined to fail. I think there were some signs that she was interested. Number 1, she said we should meet for a brief drink. After two hours of talking, she ordered another drink when I went to the bathroom. She wouldn't do this if she wasnt enjoying her time with me right? 2, there was never silence. We both talked the entire time and I showed as much interest in her as she did in me. 3, we hung out until we had nowhere to go anymore, she wouldn't let me look for my car on my own, and she told me to call her for help the next morning when she dropped me off. 4, she texted me first the next day.. I see these as good signs. I could be wrong? What I did after that is probably what blew it. I didn't really show I cared even though I really really did. (Trying to be someone I'm not, don't wanna come off too strong) and I didn't really text her back after she texted me that one sided text Monday morning.
ChatroomHero Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Inanimate. It is a living breathing human that he met and sounds as if he quite likes her. I think any Insight would realise that it is this fellow that must put himself out there, and come what may, he needs not to be scared of a knock back. I think guys are far too sensitive these days. Ohh, she might not like me. Ohh, I must be the man. Ohh, I have to get in and reject her first. When u meet someone u like, u MUST take a risk. And this guy is risking nothing calling her, but the chance of a bit of happiness down the road. But the issue is when you text her asking her out (putting yourself out there) and she replies, "hi". Then you put yourself out there again and call her and she doesn't answer but texts, "sorry I missed your call". Multiply that time 10 and then it becomes, am I wasting time, money, effort and just being blown off? It's not so much about putting yourself out there and taking risk as it is taking repeated risk and not having any way to know if she is wanting him to chase or blowing him off. It's counter-intuitive based on experience with every other person you are not romantically interested in and there is no hard line to know if you are an unrelentless creep in her mind or doing a really good job chasing...the only difference between the two lies locked completely in her head. I think it is more women afraid of the risk of giving the guy even a little positive indication BEFORE she knows he is highly interested because they are afraid of rejection and losing the upperhand. I have always found risk to seem, and be, minimal when a woman is interested. When she is interested usually you never have to ask if she is being nice or looking forward to seeing you again because, gasp, she tells you she had a good time and is looking forward to seeing you again.
Joaquin Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Healthy available woman that fancy u will make the effort. They want a man. My point in the above posts is the op had a reasonable date. She has done nothing to suggest she isn't interested. He just hasn't followed thru by calling her to say hey, fancy going out on Friday.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Healthy available woman that fancy u will make the effort. They want a man. My point in the above posts is the op had a reasonable date. She has done nothing to suggest she isn't interested. He just hasn't followed thru by calling her to say hey, fancy going out on Friday. Very true. And the reason why I did that is I was trying to "play" it like I do with most women which is I tried to pretend I didn't really care hoping that would attract her. The real me wanted to text her that night or the morning after to make sure she got home ok because I really was concerned. It was 3:30am when she dropped me off and she had to drive 30-40 minutes home... But I screwed it up trying to do my normal game.
Sunshine87 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Dont text her seeking permission to call. Just call. If she picks up- great, if she doesnt, wait for her to call back. If she doesn't, you have your answer. Don't send her any more texts. 2
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Dont text her seeking permission to call. Just call. If she picks up- great, if she doesnt, wait for her to call back. If she doesn't, you have your answer. Don't send her any more texts. Just seems odd to call off guard. No?
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 So I called and she answered but... She couldn't hear me and when I said "hey ____, its _______ she said "who's this" and then she said "I can't hear you I have music playing through my headset" or something like that. Then she said "ill call you back ". She then sent a text right after saying she will call me in a bit because she was practicing. I'm not really sure what this means. Sounds like she accidentally answered and realized it was me and then pulled the "ill call you back". But she DID send a text too. My head hurts.
MidwestUSA Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 So I called and she answered but... She couldn't hear me and when I said "hey ____, its _______ she said "who's this" and then she said "I can't hear you I have music playing through my headset" or something like that. Then she said "ill call you back ". She then sent a text right after saying she will call me in a bit because she was practicing. I'm not really sure what this means. Sounds like she accidentally answered and realized it was me and then pulled the "ill call you back". But she DID send a text too. My head hurts. Take a breath! I have a feeling she'll call (and I'm pulling for you!)
Simon Phoenix Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 So I called and she answered but... She couldn't hear me and when I said "hey ____, its _______ she said "who's this" and then she said "I can't hear you I have music playing through my headset" or something like that. Then she said "ill call you back ". She then sent a text right after saying she will call me in a bit because she was practicing. I'm not really sure what this means. Sounds like she accidentally answered and realized it was me and then pulled the "ill call you back". But she DID send a text too. My head hurts. Dude, you really need to stop overanalyzing. She said she'll call, so let her call. If she doesn't call, then oh well, back to the drawing board.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Take a breath! I have a feeling she'll call (and I'm pulling for you!) I hope! And yeah I know Simon, I wish I could.. Lol
Simon Phoenix Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I hope! And yeah I know Simon, I wish I could.. Lol Well, you need to practice this. Because if you are this tense about stuff like that, it's going to come through on dates at the worst time. Go work out or do something creative. Keep busy.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Well, you need to practice this. Because if you are this tense about stuff like that, it's going to come through on dates at the worst time. Go work out or do something creative. Keep busy. It's only because I'm really interested in this one. Normally I don't care. But to be honest, I'm about 30 minutes away from being over this and moving on. Hopefully I can resist from sending her a text about how all she has to do is say she doesn't see this going anywhere instead of leading me on..
Simon Phoenix Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 It's only because I'm really interested in this one. Normally I don't care. But to be honest, I'm about 30 minutes away from being over this and moving on. Hopefully I can resist from sending her a text about how all she has to do is say she doesn't see this going anywhere instead of leading me on.. Dude, don't be that guy. You have no idea what she has going on. Breathe. I mean, you went out what, Friday? It's Tuesday.
Lansing Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Just promise you won't do ANYTHING for now. Don't contact her again, don't text her to tell her off, just BREATH.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I'll wait a little longer but I don't know guys... I don't really put up with disrespectful women, I never have. I want to make this the exception because I'm actually interested in her, but if this is how she is now... I can only imagine what she does in a relationship. I guess there is still a chance she will call but doubt it. It's been a little over an hour now.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I'll wait a little longer but I don't know guys... I don't really put up with disrespectful women, I never have. I want to make this the exception because I'm actually interested in her, but if this is how she is now... I can only imagine what she does in a relationship. I guess there is still a chance she will call but doubt it. It's been a little over an hour now. Dude, you went out with her once. You don't know what's going on on her end. But even if she doesn't call back, don't lose your self-respect and dignity by acting like a clingy spaz. Trust me, she's not going to feel the least bit bad about not calling you if you act like that. If she doesn't call, then she doesn't call. No need to make an ass out of yourself in the process.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 (edited) Dude, you went out with her once. You don't know what's going on on her end. But even if she doesn't call back, don't lose your self-respect and dignity by acting like a clingy spaz. Trust me, she's not going to feel the least bit bad about not calling you if you act like that. If she doesn't call, then she doesn't call. No need to make an ass out of yourself in the process. Alright then. I'm just going to delete her number and move on. I'm not interested in pursuing someone like this. Thanks dude. Edited August 14, 2013 by everyusernameisinuse
Simon Phoenix Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 Alright then. I'm just going to delete her number and move on. I'm not interested in pursuing someone like this. Thanks dude. Throw your phone in your room and go for a run or something.
Author everyusernameisinuse Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 I have figured out what went wrong here. I went and sweat out my frustrations and realized afterwards that what I did wrong with this entire situation is that I listened to other people's advice. I used to be a player in high school and my friends always asked me how I did it. I told them I didn't understand because I was a d1ck to all women. Well, when I am this way, I get women, even still. But with this particular chick, I tried the other approach thinking she was more mature (28 years old apparently ready to settle down) which ruined the whole thing. Here's why, we had the date, I told her in the car I had a good time. That was enough. By not texting her the next day, I made it appear as if I was busy or I have other females I'm with so I'm not readily available. Women LOVE this. They want what they can't have. Except I made myself available for her and she backed off. I guarantee this is what happened. If I didn't listen to the people I asked about this (not you guys but friends and family ) , I know for sure I would've had another date set up by now. But the beauty of this is this... I don't want to be serious with someone who likes the games. So in a way, I protected myself from that by failing at the game. On the other hand, I can tell its going to hard to find a serious relationship with women when so many love these games. So in conclusion, I deleted her number and texts. Back to playing the game that gets you women... Let them chase you! Don't chase them! For the record, I kow this doesn't apply to all women, but it sure does apply to a lot of women in their 20s. Women will go after what they can't have. They like unavailable guys who are "busy". While I consider these women immature, its all I can get right now Thanks to everyone for their support in this thread. I really do appreciate it. While some of you might disagree with the stuff I just said, you can't deny women like to chase. This has always worked for me so there is no doubt. I truly did feel for this girl but she basically slapped me in the face because I showed interest. I get it though, she's used to being chased, she's good looking, she doesn't want to be chased!! Period! /thread.
radiodarcy Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 For the record, I kow this doesn't apply to all women, but it sure does apply to a lot of women in their 20s. Women will go after what they can't have. They like unavailable guys who are "busy". While I consider these women immature, its all I can get right now /thread. I'm happy to help (for all the good it did :/) and I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you had hoped. But the above quote leaves me confused: Is this all you can get? Or all you really care to have at this point?
Star Gazer Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I have figured out what went wrong here. I went and sweat out my frustrations and realized afterwards that what I did wrong with this entire situation is that I listened to other people's advice. I used to be a player in high school and my friends always asked me how I did it. I told them I didn't understand because I was a d1ck to all women. Well, when I am this way, I get women, even still. But with this particular chick, I tried the other approach thinking she was more mature (28 years old apparently ready to settle down) which ruined the whole thing. Here's why, we had the date, I told her in the car I had a good time. That was enough. By not texting her the next day, I made it appear as if I was busy or I have other females I'm with so I'm not readily available. Women LOVE this. They want what they can't have. Except I made myself available for her and she backed off. I guarantee this is what happened. If I didn't listen to the people I asked about this (not you guys but friends and family ) , I know for sure I would've had another date set up by now. But the beauty of this is this... I don't want to be serious with someone who likes the games. So in a way, I protected myself from that by failing at the game. On the other hand, I can tell its going to hard to find a serious relationship with women when so many love these games. So in conclusion, I deleted her number and texts. Back to playing the game that gets you women... Let them chase you! Don't chase them! For the record, I kow this doesn't apply to all women, but it sure does apply to a lot of women in their 20s. Women will go after what they can't have. They like unavailable guys who are "busy". While I consider these women immature, its all I can get right now Thanks to everyone for their support in this thread. I really do appreciate it. While some of you might disagree with the stuff I just said, you can't deny women like to chase. This has always worked for me so there is no doubt. I truly did feel for this girl but she basically slapped me in the face because I showed interest. I get it though, she's used to being chased, she's good looking, she doesn't want to be chased!! Period! /thread. It sounds like you tried to play some PUA games with her, and she didn't play your game, so now you're mad at her, calling her disrespectful and a gamer? Ridiculous. Honestly.
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