Dumped85 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Met up with ex gf the other day after 2 months of breakup to get some property off her, anyway id been waiting to see her again after all that time. But instead I felt cold towards her, and couldn't wait to get out of there until we said good bye and I reached out for her hand . I felt ok that afternoon, but the next day I felt I still have something there for her. When she broke up with me she made her feelings clear, that she fell out of them. I just wanto let go even more so that I know she's moved on and possibly dating here and there again. I hate this feeling of no control of my feelings. It's like I feel something for her but know to let ho and move on, how do I overcome it?
supaflyz Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Don't really know what to tell you but to initiate no contact. That is the hardest thing. Try to participate in new hobbies. I'm going jogging again to lose some weight. It's a very hard thing to overcome knowing the ex has fell out of love and has no more feelings.
Author Dumped85 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Ill definitely initiate nc again, with hobbies im learning guitar and started doing boxing classes. I lost 14kg in this time due to losing my appetite.
Author Dumped85 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 My conclusion, emotions are farked, heart break is so unfair
Hoaks Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 My conclusion, emotions are farked, heart break is so unfair I hear you, to go from that awesome feeling of being loved, to the opposite is very very hard to get past.
OzHeartache Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 I hear you, to go from that awesome feeling of being loved, to the opposite is very very hard to get past. Agree with you guys....... It sucks big time but we have to just keep going, this forum and many others are out there full of people feeling like we do at this very moment..... but there are also stories spattered in amongst of people that have gone from where we are now, to find someone awesome and are very happy.....It's just hard to be positive I know, but I guess we have to try 2
Author Dumped85 Posted August 14, 2013 Author Posted August 14, 2013 Can't do this anymore, I'm creating false hope with in myself. Messaged her to see me again to talk and there's nothing. Its BS.
templeofmax Posted August 14, 2013 Posted August 14, 2013 What is BS is you initiating contact!! You are here to ask for advice, but do the opposite. I know the feeling, we all were there and learned the hard way! If its meant to be it will be, and the hope will be there. But you sending messages doesn't heal you, doesn't let her miss you (yes, it can take a few months) IF she will, doesn't show her you respect her decision, doesn't open the possibility for you to see what YOU need to change, cause there is always something that needs to change.
Author Dumped85 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 The straight forward advice is what I need to hear, I definitely respect this girl. Always have. Its just hard to let go completely, and that can seem selfish on my part to attempt to show her I can be the one for her . I know there are things with in myself that need changes. Not denying that.
templeofmax Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 The straight forward advice is what I need to hear, I definitely respect this girl. Always have. Its just hard to let go completely, and that can seem selfish on my part to attempt to show her I can be the one for her . I know there are things with in myself that need changes. Not denying that. So work on improving yourself. Go NC, and time will tell. The hope will be there. I still have it after 4 months. However, you will feel better and NC DOES help wonders. Day by day. If she is for you, it will happen.
Author Dumped85 Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 I feel pretty low today, hate it. But called my mum instead of her. Which helped.
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