fortyninethousand322 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 So Facebook is a place where it's kind of a dumping ground for people you known at any time in your life. I've got friends on there from elementary school, college, former coworkers, current coworkers, people I play basketball with, etc. I came across a profile on a dating site the other day and it's a girl I went to elementary school with and I'm friends with on Facebook. I haven't talked to her in an long time, but she does seem interesting based on her profile (and what I've seen on her Facebook). Would it be a good idea to say "hey what's up" or something like that on Facebook (obviously not mentioning her profile on the dating site)? I guess it's an advantage knowing someone is single and looking, but still. It feels more awkward than it would be if I was just talking about a complete stranger. Any thoughts? 1
white Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Good question. A proper interesting conundrum. I'm sure there's an episode of any given sitcom in this one. There probably has been in How I met Your Mother. Who am I kidding, they've probably covered it five times by now. If it had been high school I'd have said definitely not. Elementary is far enough back though. Here's what I'd do. I'd message her on FB and say "hi, I saw your profile on [x old site]. We're both single and looking but we aren't total strangers. I'd say that's an improvement on the dating site status quo. What do you think?" She might delete you as fast as she can click, but what have you lost. Really I just want to hear how it goes. Hey if you get a date, you're guaranteed a good laugh about your horrible old teachers and whatshisface who peed his pants and that time Jonny threw a baseball into his own face etc. 1
It's Just Me Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 If she was interested, she would have asked about your current situation by now. I wouldn't pursue it.
dasein Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Send her a FB message and say hey, couldn't hurt.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 If she was interested' date=' she would have asked about your current situation by now. I wouldn't pursue it.[/quote'] Couldn't she say the same thing about me? I mean I've been friends with her on Facebook since 2006, probably said maybe one word to her the whole time.
dasein Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 I just sent a whole bunch of FB friends messages to catch up with what they have going on. Most normal thing in the world. Don't buy into "stranger danger creepy" culture. Contact who you want, if she takes it the wrong way, that's on her. There is not some magic bubble around women that lets in only the men they have preexisting attraction for and keeps all others out. If you come hat in hand and squirrely, she will perceive you that way, maybe even in print. What you are talking about is completely normal and nothing wrong with it at all. 1
ThaWholigan Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Send it. I had that dilemma a few times and just messaged anyway. 1
Lani Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Message her on Facebook for sure. But don't mention you saw her on the dating site. It's awkward. Just casually check in with her and see how it goes. I don't see any risk.
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