Mike Bowen Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 (edited) Okay me and my girl broke up. For we talked for a short time in a relationship. At first it was all good like it seemed nothing good go wrong. I was accepted by her whole family and friends. They've told me I've made her so happy that she's always smiling an stuff. I'd tell her things that brought tears of happiness to her eyes, I wiped those tears for her she'd also hide her blush from me . Her friends said that she's starting to fall for me. But somewhere around the way things felt different I felt she was hiding stuff from me an such. She told me she wasn't I believed her. And than like a week later everything starting going downhill from there. She gave me a test one day all day that is because her friend thought I was hot. So she distanced herself from me all day to see if I'd flirt with her, passed the test and all. The next day everything seemed right until we all went to this carnival thing she was again distancing herself and so I left to give her space to come back seeing her alone with this one dude. Later me and her eventually started to talk and she was doubting us and all saying that she pictures me with her other friend not her. So we had are long talk before we got there to the house that is everything seemed good. Until I found out that the boy she was with she still had feelings for. I blew it out of proportion and that's when it started to go down hill. She said I should of trusted her that I'm only interested in you that nothing would happen between me an him. We shed tears as the conversation went on. She said I think we rushed that all this is to stressing for her the both of us. We almost broke up and than she said lets put this all behind us she said we can talk about it tomorrow and so I brought it up the next day. She seemed pissed when I brought it up she was pissed at me the whole day for that. I left and she seemed upset listing to sher and all depressing. Eventually she came to terms saying she doesn't want to break up and than she said I still want to talk we just got to get to know eachother saying shed be committed to me.Things seemed fine but I kept pushing to make things work and I believe I drove her away made her upset and all. Saying stuff like do you really want to work things out and all like almost everyday and if she still liked me. She said she still had feelings but a lot is going on and im going through a lot. I than finally pushed for I needed a definite answer. She said she truly wanted to work it out but she did a lot of thinking and she said she thinks all we could be is friends if that . For I started talking to (edited) wisk and I'm sorry , I'd still like to be your friend its your choice Im so sorry. I than responded with I knew it I knew it all along . I wish you would of told me been straight forward. Committed LOL . I than next day responded maybe we can be friends in the future she said id like that. Than the next day I asked her if we can talk she said sure and I said okay hold up. And sent this. I've been thinking alot latley and I don't know if we can be friends because I want us to be more. I know you've had these doubts about me, us working, if it'd be the same or different. Ive gave you so many mixed feelings upsetting you an I apologize those weren't my intentions at all. Know I'm working on bettering myself as we speek. For if we were to try again because I don't want to repeat the same mistakes I did knowing exactly were I went wrong... I understand that I stressed you out a lot. Pushing you over and over questioning us doubting you not trusting you not giving space when needed. Knowing you've made your choice for now and I support you and your decision as long as your happy. What I'm trying to say is I'd love a second chance with you someday. Not from were we left off a do over from the start.* and got no response so the next day I sent this. Hey (edited) im sorry I blindsided you with the paragraph when I said I'd like to talk that won't happen again, I'd still like to talk for a bit if you'd be willing to talk all about this. Still no reply and I fear I've lost her forever even as a friend and Im in love with her. I'm anlonger. Please help me to get her back! Edited August 13, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
btyoung21 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 First off, you need to split that thread into several paragraphs, very hard. From what you've told me, some pointers: - Give her some space, she needs to know what she wants or needs - Dont come off as clingy or needy, shell probably get pushed away - Leave a last strong statement like: "I love you and I enjoyed our relationship, so sorry it didnt work out, maybe someday itll be better." - Contact her for a casual meetup in the near future, depends on how much time you need to be 100% decided to pursue her. (anywhere from 2 - 4 months?) The idea behind is that both of you have clearer minds first. You cant fix this if bad emotions are still in play.
Author Mike Bowen Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Would it be best to her it now. I love you and I enjoyed our relationship, so sorry it didnt work out, maybe someday itll be better.
templeofmax Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Man, just send this: (name), please know that I will respect your space to figure out what you want and need. I also need to work on some personal stuff. Sorry for being pushy before, but I just have strong feelings for you and would like us to talk when the time is right. After that, do not send anything, but RESPECT her space. I know its hard, but you have to cause its the ONLY option. It may work or not, but you, like most of us here, only have that option. I am going on 8 weeks NC with my ex, but for the first 2 months I was sending texts, etc, and she did not reply to anything, so I sent one last one about respecting her space. Since then, NC has helped ME to feel better and in a better position to wait a little longer cause I of course still miss her like crazy and love her. However, not contacting also makes the other person wonder and it shows them you are respecting them. YOU WILL NOT ACCOMPLISH NOTHING RIGHT NOW!
TaraMaiden Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Would it be best to her it now. I love you and I enjoyed our relationship, so sorry it didnt work out, maybe someday itll be better. How old are you guys, again??
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