danny8630 Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 hey all, i had to tell my ex g/f today that i no longer wished to speak with her. why ?? i dont know, i was doing fantastic on a day to day basis but when i heard that she was pretty much seeing someone else. the hurt came out of no where and i just had to tell her that i couldnt do it. she doesnt understand why i would say something like this because she assumed i was cool with us breaking up. she has this thing that she uses against me and that is that she was "just my high school crush". i wrote her an email explaining why i told her that and hoping that she would understand. i told her that because just because she was my crush that basically love doesnt discriminate. you might be asking yourself, well what does this guy want? throughout our relationship, she didnt care...about anything. i could break up with her at any random moment and she would be cool with it. I was being naive and assuming that she was just joking. im just like every other guy, i say that i dont want to talk to her, but really, i do want her to call me and just make some kind of defense. advice anyone?
SoleMate Posted November 5, 2004 Posted November 5, 2004 The basic problem seems to be that you were much more attached to her than she was to you. Right now, you realize that the romance is over, but you would still prefer even an passionate argument to the cool non-reaction or silence. You want to hear her defend herself because that would show she still has some feeling about the two of you. You telling her never to talk to you again was really aimed at getting a reaction from her, nothing more. If she's been cool as a cucumber all along, then I think it's likely that she never was serious, and this was all an amusing little fling/crush/whatever to her. That's painful. The best thing you can do for yourself is accept that it's over, grieve, and avoid deepening your suffering by adopting NC (no contact), starting now.
Author danny8630 Posted November 5, 2004 Author Posted November 5, 2004 i dont think you can be anymore accurate. i mean that is exactly what im thinking and feeling. I realized and accepted to myself that the whole move was aimed at some kind of reaction. she did react with a rather surprised,"are you kidding" thing. whatever, im going to look for the better of myself rather than grieve and think about over and over what she is doing. NC has been esablished, i told her last night, removed her from my buddy list, and i even damaged my cellular phone internally trying to see if there was a way to block numbers.(no physical damage, something happened with the circuitry.)
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