Charym88 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 It has been approximately a week and some hours since we last talked. However, I have taken him off block on Facebook yesterday. I was so eager to break NC yesterday after advice from my mom and friends but I knew the smarter thing to do was just to continue on not talking to him and let him come to me. That way, I won't endure more pain if he ignored me or wasn't ready to communicate. I admit though, that I have been accepting game requests from him as well as sending some. Although we are not friends on Facebook, the game still has us as neighbors. Well, this morning, I logged into my Yahoo Messenger and there was his username asking me to accept his request to add me to the list. He had me blocked at first, but now he is back on my list. I'm still not going to say anything to him. I'm going to let him do all of the chasing. However, I atleast know he's still not mad. So, I will give it about 30-40 more days if he doesn't say anything to me at first. But even still, I may not even respond until I'm ready.
Lei Ping Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 It has been approximately a week and some hours since we last talked. However, I have taken him off block on Facebook yesterday. I was so eager to break NC yesterday after advice from my mom and friends but I knew the smarter thing to do was just to continue on not talking to him and let him come to me. That way, I won't endure more pain if he ignored me or wasn't ready to communicate. I admit though, that I have been accepting game requests from him as well as sending some. Although we are not friends on Facebook, the game still has us as neighbors. Well, this morning, I logged into my Yahoo Messenger and there was his username asking me to accept his request to add me to the list. He had me blocked at first, but now he is back on my list. I'm still not going to say anything to him. I'm going to let him do all of the chasing. However, I atleast know he's still not mad. So, I will give it about 30-40 more days if he doesn't say anything to me at first. But even still, I may not even respond until I'm ready. It's nice to be friends with Xes. be happy with that.
Author Charym88 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 UPDATE! He has started contacting me and asking for forgiveness for what happened. I am still not ready to rekindle what we had just yet. I still need to give it more time. But he said that he has thought about me everyday up until now and I did the same. Happy I am able to get him to atleast communicate again.
Zahara Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 This is the long distance guy that left you to go back to his pregnant girlfriend? The one who said that he was miserable for 4 years with the woman but was so miserable that he got her pregnant and now is back with her? Why bother... 4
Echo000 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 ^^ agreed. and do you think things have fundamentally changed in this short time span since this all went down? you think that even if you got back together in two months from now, things would be any different? doubt. it. 1
Angry bird Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Let these feelings die sweetie. If not, there is going to be a lifetime of bak and forth heartache in store for you. Trust me on that. And the time will pass so quickly, and you will look back and say " why did I fu)king waste my time that loser". I know this be ause my sister was caught in the same cycle for 19 years!! You will ruin your life with that man.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Your ex didn't break NC, you did. You are the only one who can break your No Contact. NC is not a two-person thing, it's a one-person thing. It's not up to a second person to maintain your NC.
Author Charym88 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 This is the long distance guy that left you to go back to his pregnant girlfriend? The one who said that he was miserable for 4 years with the woman but was so miserable that he got her pregnant and now is back with her? Why bother... Well I assumed he left me to go back to her. It's only been a week and he already wants to come back. He has with me for a month and a half and never wanted to go back only to see his child. Now that he has been with his child, he is ready to come back. I have been pondering on him seeing his child and he missed his baby too. Now that the hard part is out of the way, I believe we can reconcile. And it's not back and forth crap. Of course, if he has a little baby, he would have to travel back and forth to see his child grow. However, he would rather be with me to make sacrifices. I don't think his child's mother is a factor I just assumed it because I was mad and hurt he went back to NYC out of anger.
TaraMaiden Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Well I assumed he left me to go back to her. It's only been a week and he already wants to come back. Yes, and when he's back with you, a short while later, he will go back to her....then want to be back with you... then go back to her.... then come back....and he will carry on with this self-gratifying ping-pong arrangement for one reason, and one reason only: because he can. (because you permit it.) He has with me for a month and a half and never wanted to go back only to see his child. Now that he has been with his child, he is ready to come back. Yeah. I bet he will tell you he never had sex with her either. Oh, of course not.... ... I have been pondering on him seeing his child and he missed his baby too. Now that the hard part is out of the way, I believe we can reconcile. And it's not back and forth crap. Yes, it is, you've already established that, so I'm afraid that doesn't wash.... Of course, if he has a little baby, he would have to travel back and forth to see his child grow....and will have sex with her. I guarantee it. She will want it, and he, spineless imbecile that he is, will give it to her. Remember how 'miserable' he was with her for 4 years? You think that in all that time, he refrained from sex? Li'l baby sez no..... However, he would rather be with me to make sacrifices. I don't think his child's mother is a factor I just assumed it because I was mad and hurt he went back to NYC out of anger. No, he wouldn't rather be with you. it's "your turn". Then, when he's had his fun, and babymomma starts making demands, she'll yank his guilt-chain and off he will go again... I'm 'watching this space'....
TaraMaiden Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Oh and yeah. he never broke NC. YOU did that. he just responded to your 'open door'. The breaking of NC is entirely on you, not on him. At all.
Zahara Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Well I assumed he left me to go back to her. It's only been a week and he already wants to come back. He has with me for a month and a half and never wanted to go back only to see his child. Now that he has been with his child, he is ready to come back. I have been pondering on him seeing his child and he missed his baby too. Now that the hard part is out of the way, I believe we can reconcile. And it's not back and forth crap. Of course, if he has a little baby, he would have to travel back and forth to see his child grow. However, he would rather be with me to make sacrifices. I don't think his child's mother is a factor I just assumed it because I was mad and hurt he went back to NYC out of anger. I think you're in your own lalaland so it's a waste of time to give you advice. Proceed. 1
TaraMaiden Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 I think you're in your own lalaland so it's a waste of time to give you advice. Proceed. Well, I gave it my best shot.....
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