btyoung21 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 Hey everyone, My girlfriend and I met in 2010 and hit it off quite quickly (we were mates in middle school) and started living together in 2011. Her dad wasn't in approval of that set-up, and living with me strained her relationship with her dad. Anyway, the major problems we faced were mostly because of her sexual history. I had a hard time coming to grips about her past 'events' and bothered me to the point that we would fight about it. Good thing is, her staying with me helped me become calmer and the issue died down in mid 2012. Fast forward to 2013, she started going to med school. Suddenly, our time for each other was split in half and we couldn't hang out much. She moved out in order to find a flat/condo nearer her school (around 100km from our old place). Again, I could not adjust to the new schedule and found myself fighting with her about the choice of school. Because she was supposedly to attend a nearer school (15km from my place). All the distance and arguing eventually came to a head last week, when she told me that she couldn't deal with both med school and me. She basically told me that she had been sacrificing for me ever since she moved in with me (to help me deal with her past sex history) and now trying to split time between medschool and me. She broke it off by saying that I should never, ever attempt anything to get her back, because she is just plain tired of 'catering' to my needs. Obviously, I wanna get her back and I'm willing to change. Recent efforts were only met with cussing and shouting from her side. What to do?
xxiansharpexx Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 It sounds to me as though she needs some time to work out her routine and get in to her studies before she can even think about you. A lot of youthful relationships break down when both parties or one go to university. The best thing to do is wait for a while and allow her to work out her routine. Be there for her but ONLY if she needs you. Don't just turn up with offers of help as you will more than likely just annoy her. Wait for an opportunity to show her that you care and want to help her, but let her give you the opportunity herself. There will likely be a time when she needs you, but you must wait for it and not try to engineer it yourself. You might like to read this article on the subject too Ten Ways: How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back. Hope this has helped.
Author btyoung21 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Posted August 12, 2013 (edited) Thanks iansharpe, Should I do NC for a while? If so, how long? Should I completely move on? The last text messages were pretty nasty coming from her; telling me never to show up, never to call, never to text. Emphasis on never. Never will come back to me, etc. said with so much angst and anger. I provided and cared for her for 3 years, while she was doing odd jobs here and there. I expect some sort of gratitude or respect my way. It so funny how she told me that I'm her life and she'd never leave me 2 days prior to the fight that led to the break-up... Edited August 12, 2013 by btyoung21
thora-tiki Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 Hi, buddy! I just sent you a loooong e-mail as a reply to your nice e-mail. :-) Looking forward to hearing from you! Have a nice day!
Author btyoung21 Posted August 13, 2013 Author Posted August 13, 2013 Annie! Replied to your e-mail. I hope we can help each other! Love, Ben
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